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writes:So, my boyfriend and I went into a relationship quickly; we've only been together for five months. However, we were close friends for ages before we got together and we both developed feeling for one another before we got together, so we didn't see any reason in hanging around. He tells me he loves me several times a day and we have a great sex life. However, he confessed that he slept with this other girl, who is at my school. She is a vindictive cow who lost her virginity at 13/14 and has a reputation as a slut. Since my boyfriend confessed the day after it happened, I still have some trust for him. He told me the truth and he was sincerely upset. I want to forgive him and get our relationship back on track, but is this a mistake.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2015): I disagree with the last poster. People cam change. Just because a person cheated, doesn't mean they will again. People have moments of weakness. It's what a person does next that will show you their true colours. I would give him one final chance and one final chance alone. If anything like this happens with hum again, well... your choice becomes clear.Above all else, remember that hate and walking away is easy. Mercy and compassion is not.
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reader, N91 +, writes (25 April 2015):
 You trust a guy that cheated on you because he told you the day after? That sounds incredibly naive I'm afraid to say.
Maybe he is sorry, maybe he does regret it, but it's done. He has cheated on you, would you like to continue a relationship with a guy that has already shown he has the capacity to cheat on you despite telling you how often he 'loves' you?
Even more so with a girl who's a 'slut'. He musnt value you very highly if he's willing to give in to the first girl that throws herself at him.
I've heard countless times that cheaters never change, I can say I know there's some truth in that having witnessed many of my own friends cheat on their girlfriends multiple times despite us giving them a telling off.
At the end of the day it's your decision, you could play it by ear, take him back and see how it goes before you fully commit back to the relationship or just move on and find someone that will remain faithful.
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