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writes:Your Open Question:Why can't he keep his erection long anymore? is he cheating? Wow I've just been told my bf has been cheating on me. I asked him if he's ever cheated on me he says no. He says he loves me. But I'm not sure.. Am gunna have to investigate more. He says the girl that told him likes him and wants to split us up.He hasn't been able to stay hard during sex lately. He gets really embrassed. Could that be due to him cheating?We're both 22... I thought maybe he's not attracted to me anymore but I work out regularly to keep my figure in shape..x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2012): Um.. He probably isn't cheating.
Now I'm not sure if I can sympathize much considering I'm gay but I'm fairly sure he isn't cheating...
He probably has a medical problem and by pressing the fact that you think he is cheating doesn't help at all and it is probably making it even worse. I'd suggest to stop being a bitch and take him to the doctor.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (4 February 2012):
 Why do you assume that everything has to be about you. Why no consideration about what the poor guy is feeling? Being unable to maintain an erection is a very embarrasing and distressing problem. Guy must worried sick over this, and instead of his girlfriend coming here for advice about how to help him, she comes here to ask if she's fat or is he cheating.Consideration for your man's problem would be a really nice thing to do right now.1. When did erection problems start, how long has he had it2. Does he use porn, and if so how often3. How often do you two have sex4. How often does he have an orgasm, through sex or masturbation5. Does he drink a lot or do drugs6. Is he on any medication7. Any problems at work, with his family, friends or with you, any money problems, anything causing him stress.8. Any medical problemsIt's not clear what you mean about unable to maintain an erection. Does it come up at all. Can he orgasm if through masturbation or oral sex. Does it go down just before penetration, or it's never even hard enough for penetration to happen.No, erection problems don't mean cheating. Guys who cheat can usually get an erection and screw everything. Guys who have erection problems are scared, afraid and worried. For all you know he might have a very serious medical problem and might need to see a doctor.Go and ask him to answer them questions, or come back here and put in a post of his own. Erection problems in young men are usually very easy to fix as long as we have enough details to spot what his problem is. And stop asking him about cheating, your adding to the problem and making everything worse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2012): Talk real nasty to him during sex...If he looses it, just wait a few minutes and let him know its ok...It happens to all. Make him feel comfortable or else it will get worse! Because now his mind is gonna be pre-occupied with "Oh no, it's gonna happen"
we need more facts such as...How long you all been together. Anything change or is he stressing about anything...? Good Luck
Is he cheating.....scale 1 to 10 because of that. Um I rate 3
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reader, Honest Answer  +, writes (3 February 2012):
 Cheating has nothing to do with erectile dysfunction. He needs to see a doctor to see if there is an underlying issue.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, Relationship.Chef +, writes (3 February 2012):
 Ask him if he masturbates. Ask him whether his Kegel muscles are in shape.
Ask him if he gets excited by you. (And, if so, the problem is usually physical, not psychological)
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reader, MajorDisplayerOfInternationalPlayerBehavior +, writes (3 February 2012):
 There are many reasons why a man has erectile dysfunction. At his age, it is most likely psychological. At 22 if he cannot keep an erection, there is either a physical health issue, or a psychological issue. Is he in good physical shape? Have you two lost intimacy?
He is probably under so much stress or guilt that he is having really heavy duty emotional problems right now. Certain drugs and medications will also wreak havoc on a mans erection.
Although, just because he is having difficulty keeping it up, does not mean that he is cheating.
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