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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Me and my boyfriend had been dating for 8 months and then we broke up because i talked to some guy!! he's muslim though so remember that.We got back together a short time after and it doesnt feel the same anymore, it does for him but me i dont no, before we broke up i was in love with him like in LOVE but now i just dont no, it dont feel ritee. I want to love him like i used to i really do. I dont no what to do...Please helpHow can i love him again, i want to be with him!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (24 March 2008):
 Thanks BigSis for pointing out my mistake.
I apologise for the error.
Before you were like a beautiful vase but after it fell down ,
the vase was chipped/cracked
The vase is no more the same.
Before , you see him like a perfect and nice guy ,
but after your breakup ,you see his faults.
He is no more the perfect Mr.Nice guy and you do have
reservations about him.
Love can never be the same again.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (24 March 2008):
 If you go back with him then prepare to be controlled again. He will continue trying to tell you how to behave, what you can do and with who.
Being muslim has nothing to do with it. He is just trying to control you.
You are smart to have lost feelings for him, this type of guy should be steered well clear off.
Don't confuse love with the love of being in love.
A lot of women are so obsessed with the idea of having a boyfriend and being in love that they go for anything in pants.
Get back with him and soon enough he will find some other thing you did "wrong". If you want to be your partners puppet, then by all means, beg his forgiveness hope he accepts you back as Laura1318 suggests. Soon enough you will have no friends, because he objects, no hobbies, because you should do the things he enjoys doing and no life. But hey, you got a bf and that is all that counts right?
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female
reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (24 March 2008):
 Hi,
It doesn't sound very reasonable to break up with you just because you spoke to another guy. Perhaps you are feeling some deep held resentment at the way he acted, and thats why your feelings have slightly changed.
I think in your position you need to talk out you feelings with him. Try to make him understand that you love him but he hurt you by his actions.
I really dont know about religion and why it is unexceptable for you to talk to another person, even if they are male. It seems a little harsh to me. I dont think I could live the rest of my life like that.
Hope whatever you decide to do works out for you. XX
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female
reader, BigSis +, writes (24 March 2008):
 Laura, i think you may have misunderstood her, she said he feels the same as before but she doesn't anymore.
I think you've lost respect for him because you felt he didn't trust you, try to forget about his jealousy
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female
reader, Laura1318 +, writes (24 March 2008):
Tell him that you are sorry and will not do it again .
Hope that he will forgive you and accept you back.
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