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writes: a guy i was seeing 2 months ago has got back in contact, he broke it off. reason being he did not have enough time for me. when we started seeing eachother 6 months ago i was not wanting anything serious, i am not ready for a relationship.then this guy after a month of seeing me , me playing it cool he decided he didn't want me to be with other men, just him. i said thats fine, but if you want that make an effort because i won't wait.(i did like him)during an intimacy, he confessed he could not stand another guy with me, i said ok.he broke it off saying he didnt have time for me, and its not fair on me.i said babe it was just sex,(rejection hurts i wanted him to sting) know thats horrid.hes contacted me this week asking how i am, if i am with someone what i am doing , if i am busy.i said not incredibly have work and things but generally good you? he said i have been insanely busy.he then said but your not out? i said no i wanted to stay in, he then asked where my flatmate was how long shed be away if i was seeing someone new.said no, shes busy with her boyfriend and i fancied staying in. he changed the conversation and said i would come over if i was still seeing you, then he starting stating traits i didnt know he gathered of me.saying i dont know why you lack confidence, i find it surprising being who you are, i would like to see you this minute right now if i was seeing you. i said but were not , you broke it off. he then asked me about my family quite personal things. i said i do not want to disclose that, you are neither my bf or a close friend.he then responded with not everyone will chuck it in your face, you can be vulnerable with other people, we can talk you know.i said i don't want to, change the topicwe are not close.he commented saying hed like to see me.i repeated you broke it off.he changed the topic to something more general then said goodnight after ten minutes.what is his motive?
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (17 September 2012):
 When you lie and tell someone: " It's just sex" I can be EASY for him to assume that you are up for a NSA - "just sex relationship".
From what you write it seems like he would like to have you as his "booty call". And I think you know that or you would have dismissed him trying to talk and get to know you so easily.
Honestly, I would move forward, let him go and find someone you DO want to date.. and not jump into bed so fast. At least not til you know where you two stand. It mudd the waters.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (17 September 2012):
 His "motive" is/was to get you back in bed.
Your call......
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