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writes:I had been dating a man for only 2 months, so just a short time. We hit it off very well...he would call daily,(sometimes twice) email, text, showed lots of interest. He asked me to go on a few weekend getaways with him and some close friends in a few months. I have met his close friends once. We would talk very openly about anything and I was def. falling for him as he seemed to be for me as well. He would even say things like "us" and how glad he was to of met me.His X wants full custody of their son, they have shared parenting now. Since this started becoming bitter he was getting more distant with me. Still would call, but less texting amd emails. I have tried to support him and be there as best as I could since he was stressing.He wrote me an email over 3 weeks ago, it was all about the stress of the custody case, how he is angry, not handling things well. Sorry that I have seen this side of him, and said he never ever withdraws but needs time to figure out how to handle everything. He then ended it with his weekend plans with his son and mentioned how much he was listening to the CD i let him borrow. So I def. didn't take it as a break up type of email. I have been very good at giving him space and time and have reached out a few times but I never get any response. It does hurt my feelings alot. I know he is going through this custody battle, and if he wanted to end it he could of surely made it clear in the email to me. So i am confused ..is he just not intersted any longer? Or is it ok to think that when the storm clears he will be in touch ?? Any thoughts?? I do not have kids of my own. But I do feel like he left me in limbo. And without communication I know we will have to start all over again. I just don't understand how he could show so much interest and then kind of just cut me off like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your responses. I appreciate it :) I will just be patient, but its hard !! And i figure I may as well date around in the mean time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2012): I want to still keep in touch with him , but after reaching out a few times and getting silence it makes me not want to say anymore !! :/. I have been very patient. Not needy or clingy at all . Just frustrating.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (2 November 2012):
 I agree, his email did not sound like a breakup email.If he is involved in a protracted legal case he may not have time to invest in a relationship of only 2 months. If you think he is worth waiting a little longer for, keep in touch with him and see where it goes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2012): I can understand that he is going through a rough time, but if he is pushing you away & not responding back, I would start dating other men. He may not be ready to be in a relationship with anyone yet.
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