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writes:Hi everyone,Just need some dating advice please. (Backstory) I have been seeing a guy for about 2 months.. Everything was going well, he texted me daily and we go on a date usually every Friday night. So after 2 months we had sex and everything was good after (cuddled etc). However, he texts me less now. Maybe every few days instead of daily, and the texts are less thoughtful. I just want to know why this has changed? He confirmed that he really likes me and I believe him. I know I sound neurotic but I just want to make sure that he isn't losing interest, as I hear so much about the 'chase'. I did believe that we waited a good amount of time until we were both comfortable. Could it be that he has relaxed a little now and feels like he doesn't need to communicate so much?Thanks :)
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (24 July 2016):
 I think once he had sex with you he figured he "had" you "hooked" and thus doesn't need to put in as much effort.
Sounds like a lazy guy to me. Someone who after ONLY! 2 months take you a bit for granted.
I think the first 2 months he put his "best foot" forward, the guy you are "seeing" now is who he really is. Someone who isn't perhaps a fan of texting? Or who thinks he just doesn't HAVE to text as often.
My advice? Decide for yourself if you FEEL you get what you want/need from him or not and act accordingly. I don't think he is going to change or go back to texting you more often and being more thoughtful......
You could try and talk to him, not sure it will make a difference though.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (24 July 2016):
 I think you need to ask him.
2 months isn't that long, though it's right to wait until you're both ready, so it's possible there's not much excitement left in it for him.
However, you'd expect him to want that intimacy quite a lot, now that it's on the table, as it's a new relationship.
To be honest, it's a bad sign of the effort is already waning this early on.
Talk to him, discuss what you both need in a relationship (in terms of communication levels) and work out if you're compatible and if there's a compromise.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (24 July 2016):
 Does he talk to you over the phone every day? If he does then you have nothing to worry about because some people are just not that into texting and prefer taking. If he doesn't talk to you daily then it definitely looks like his interest is fading. Let's face it, no one is possibly that busy that they can't take a few minutes out of 24 hours to say "Hi, what's up?" If he really likes you as he says then he should back it up with actions.
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