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writes: I have sex with my girlfriend we start doing it then half way through it i get soft what can be the problem? Reply to this Question
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reader, Angel ron +, writes (29 April 2006):
 Stress health anxiety nerves tiredness there area number of factors that can contribute to you not having a strong erection. Do you drink alot of alcohol? do you smoke alot? are you on drugs or medication? Are you overweight depressed, diabetic or are you suffering forma psychological problem. answer these quextions and you have your answer
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reader, lea22dc +, writes (29 April 2006):
My boyfriend has the same problem. We used a cock ring and the problem was solved, but you can't ejaculate with it on. Next we're going to try some stay hard cream. So try a few different things to see what works for you.
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reader, robinlovescena +, writes (28 April 2006):
 Maybe you should stop for a few minutes and do your buisness. winkie winkie. then get back to itgood luckRobinaka advice gurl
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reader, prttymtlkitty +, writes (28 April 2006):
 Performance anxiety sounds like. Try to keep in mind that its a form of expression, not a rodeo. ;-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2006): I highly dispute that 80% of erectile problems are physical, I would say that almost all such problems are psychological and physical causes are minority cases.
Have you been with your girlfriend long? Has it always happened? Has it always happened with previous people?
Are you stressed at the moment? Do you have relationship problems?
A more important question though, can you masturbate on your own and bring yourself to orgasm without a problem?
All questions to think about, particularly the last one.
If you don't have problems on your own, but you do when your with other people, I think you've found your problem. If this is the case, you need to address what is making you loose your erection. Perhaps you feel insecure about something, or perhaps you have some negative experiences of sex, or perhaps you have some kind of issue with your girlfriend. Only you know the answer to this.
If this is the case, it's not terminal and you can fix it. Hopefully your girlfriend is supportive, talk to her about it, try taking things slowly and talking through what is going on in your head when this happens. Good luck.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (28 April 2006):
 Drugs and / or alchohol can also be a cause.
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reader, Clarey  +, writes (28 April 2006):
 You should see a doctor. 80% of such problems have a physical cause, 20% are emotional. I know this because I have been helping a friend through this problem. Causes include diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol etc. You can make a guess based on your age as some things are much less likely if you are young. It could just be that, because it has happened one or twice, you worry about it happening again and it is a self-fulfilling prophecy. If it is emotional you may need some help to retrain your thinking, from a sex therapist. I am sure your doctor will advise. Good luck, it is a very undermining experience when it happens but can be resolved.
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