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writes:Men why give women your phone number if you know that you are not going to answer for her? thats crazy Reply to this Question
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (8 September 2011):
There are lots of other reasons a guy would give a woman his number. Sometimes they do it to feel good about themselves like an ego boost, sometimes it is an easy way to end a conversation and move on. Some guys get pressured into it, or give it to be polite knowing they don't really want to speak to the other person. Maybe he liked the girl, but managed to meet the girl of his dreams the next day. Some guys are too busy to handle their social lives, others are ok to give out numbers but shy to actually get to know people in a deeper way, it is confronting.
There are lots of reasons why people give out numbers and then don't respond. If it happens to you, it is good to assume that it is a problem or difficulty that they have rather than it being something wrong with you. That is normally closest to the truth.
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reader, PerhapsNot +, writes (8 September 2011):
 It's the same reason why women give out numbers to men: avoiding being rude. Most people are uncomfortable rejecting a stranger, even someone we know. Rejection is not fun; we have all experienced it, so we try to be a bit gentler. It's not the best option, but some people would rather be ignored than being told " no, i am not interested in you because i don't find you physically attractive to even speak to you"
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (7 September 2011):
 We (guys) do that ALL THE TIME. Get used to it.... it's S.O.P. (standard operating procedure) for guys....
Good luck...
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (7 September 2011):
 I know I'm not a guy, but even me as a female has done this before (very bad I know!). Guys have chatted to me in clubs/bars before and while they were ok, I wasnt interested but they asked for my number. So rather than rejecting them to their face (which I personally struggle with) I would give them my number, but when they text or call the next day I just ignore it and never reply.
Yes it is bad - but some people struggle to reject people or explain that they are not interested, so it is easier to give out your number than explain why you dont want to give it to them. Then you can just ignore their calls/texts and the problem goes away.
Hope this helps and good luck!
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