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writes:So it's been about 3 weeks that weLve been broken up. My ex and I and He's stating that "I'm glad we're friends, It's better than nothing at the moment"....WTF?? I know, I like being his friend to but why does he continue to flirt with me, have sex with, and tell me he still cares. Our break-up was over an issue of me talking to a friend that's an ex, he got offended because this isn't the first time it's happened it's the second.. So he said he needs to think about it. We continued to still be together til I decided "What's the point of me being here, if he's deciding whether to be with me or not" so we mutually agreed to a break. It's been about three weeks, he hasn't decided and I get the feeling he just wants to be single and hang out with his buddies case he's young...understandable. But if the reason for break-up is so "hurtful" to him why are we still friends and flirt like crazy?? And how come if he wants more time with his friends, I wouldn't care, why can't he have the best of both worlds?? Help! Help!
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reader, Lucky786  +, writes (26 September 2010):
 You haven't really broken up have you? I mean the words haven't been said by him have they? That's what you're waiting for isn't it? Him to say 'it's over' or 'it's back on' Forget it. He is keeping you as a back-up plan. He wants to be single but with the security of knowing he can flirt with you have have sex wih you whenever he wants because he never said it was over did he?
The other problem is that it's only been 3 weeks since you 'broke up' and I don't think that's nearly enough time for you to get over each other and move. The line between girlfriend/boyfriend and friends is being blurred constantly because you haven't given yourself time to get over him.
Try having asolutely no contact with him as a start. Get yourself out there, take time to move on and if after that you decide you both want to be friends,then good luck to you both.
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