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writes:A few months ago a bad thing happened on my dads side of the family. My older cousin killed himself. My parents are divorced and my dads family lives in flordia, so my dad started going down there for months and months at a time, i couldnt believe my own father would even want to be away from me for that long..then one day he told me he was moving down there because his family really needs him, i couldnt believe what i just heard i dont have a job and im not living on my own yet he acts like i dont need my own father. when ever were on the phone all he says is i love you and your the most imporant thing in my life but just thinking of the fact that my dad moved half way across the country away from me, shows me that he doesnt care. This whole thing is making me so stressed out i cry myself to sleep at night thinking of him. How do how to handle this siuttion?
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reader, Tenacious +, writes (28 September 2010):
 My husband was abandoned as a child. His dad showed up 3-4 times a year to family functions. It did something to him...taught him to put up walls that are still hard for him to let down 45 years later. Please do not let him make you feel bad about yourself. It is a horrible choice that he has made, but it is not your fault. I don't understand how a parent can do this to a a child. be strong wsweetheart!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010): Ignore the prior poster.
You need support.
Where is your mother?
This type of behavior by dad's and mom's is one of the most painful things that they do to their children. I've heard people three and 4 times your age cry when they think about the same thing. Don't be embarrassed to feel the way that you do.
I'm a dad, I know.
Your dad shouldn't do this, it is wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 September 2010):
 Aw darling am sure your dad cares about you alot, it must have been hard on him to leave you. Maybe he is just lonely living on his own and needed his family around him. Dont ever think that he doesnt care about you, at least you still get to talk to him on the phone and am sure you can always go and visit on your holidays
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