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writes:My guy has had sex with only one girl before me. Lately he claims he can nolonger get erections for other girls other than me. Yeah, he realised that coz he has tried to cheat on me severally :-( While am happy he cant erect for others am worried that either he's lyin that he cant so that i dont ask many questions or he's just in this relationship coz he can have sex. And he says that the erection fails coz he truly loves me so his heart cant allow??!! Altho he has broken up with me enough times quotin my personality and lack of interest in sex. He's also tried to get this other gal to have sex again by writin to her thru facebook, tho they havent in like two years. Guys, does this really happen or am i being fooled here?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): It is true! He could be just lying to you but I just tried to cheat on my girl and when it came time to do it, it would not get up no matter how much I wanted it to. I guess mentally you can want to cheat but not be able to because deep down I knew it was wrong. Sucked for me though!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): It is true! He may be just lying but I know that it can happen. I just tried to cheat on my girl but when it came time to do it, it would not get up no matter how much I wanted it to. Deep down I knew what I was doing was wrong so I guess mentally you can want to cheat but not be able to. Sucked for me though!
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (14 June 2009):
 As we sometimes say in Texas, you are being played like a cheap violin.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2009): It is possible but unlikely, particularly at your age.Guys your age are immature and he thinks he is very clever with this "explanation." He might be trying the old, "Yes, but I did not inhale."You might be too young but some might remember this is the "clever explanation" President Clinton gave when asked if he had ever smoked marijuana.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (13 June 2009):
 I would say he is trying to bullshit you. Yes, erections can be influenced by emotions but to say that he is incapable of an erection with other women is just bullshit.
Be honest with yourself, would your body not react with another man? Not even if he started touching you? Why do you think people are often suprised by themselves cheating? Because we are raised, especially women, by this idea that sex and love are linked. They are not.
You know he has attempted to cheat. So he has the desire. If he has the desire then the flesh is willing. The two are linked. Only if he had no desire whatsoever then he would not easily get an erection. And if he had no desire, then why did he attempt to cheat several times by his own admission?
As the other guy says, it can happen that emotions kill an erection, but those same emotions would stop you from trying in the first place. His words are lies because his actions speak otherwise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2009): Ya, it for sure can happen that a guy with a conscience, who knows deep down he's doing something wrong, can find he can't get it up.
However, if he's been in position to find this out, I really would question just how much he loves you.
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