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*unshineGirl1
writes:i have recently began a new relationship with a man i work with, having been messed around for a long time i realised that this one is different. He is sweet and charming and very respectful. However i have quite a lot of experience in the bedroom whereas he has only slept with 3 other girls. we have had sex however his penis is extremely small even when fully erect, he is obviously very insecure and has mentioned the size and i have told him that hes absolutely fine. i am not fine though in the least selfish way i have needs, but how do i approach the matter? are there any techniques or positions that could be recommended or do i just put up with it and continue with our otherwise perfect relationship?? thankyou? :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (7 April 2012):
 does his mouth work?
do his fingers work?
I can make love with my partner who is on the small side of average and be very pleased...
do NOT lie to him... however you must tell him the truth...
you just have to find the right positions.
we find doggy style to work the best....
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reader, Dr.Storer +, writes (7 April 2012):
It shouldn't really matter. If you love him and he loves you, the size of his tool should not matter at all. However, if you want more satisfaction in the bedroom, then you should be on top more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2010): It shouldn't really be a problem if you are both mature about it.The last man I was with had a small penis. He is now my ex...not for that reason though lol!
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reader, dirtball +, writes (21 May 2010):
 To the anon: Trimming pubic hair makes things *Look* bigger but will not make your penis grow. If trimming made it grow, I'd have a 3rd leg. If only it were that easy...If he's a great guy you need to accept him for who he is. The suggestions of a manual and position research is excellent. I'd also suggest lots of foreplay.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2010): Get a good sex manual one with pictures and get reading. Ask for and give lots of foreplay, tell what you are enjoying and when you don't like something explain why. Also does he need a little garden maintenance? If he grooms and trims an over grown bush the penis will automatically grow naturally.
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reader, bluessy  +, writes (21 May 2010):
 Let me share a short story with you. I met this guy almost 25 years ago. He was a very charming person,we got along great! To top it off he was also very good looking. There were times when we would kiss and rub up on each other. But, during the rubbing up,I realized he had a very small penis. The time came when he wanted us to be boyfriend and girlfriend, and I turned him down. I never told him why. I actually felt sorry for him. Now that I am a much older wiser women and know more about sex his small penis was not a big issue. It is too late to turn back the hands of time. I think he was probably my soul mate and I let him go over something so foolish. I have yet to be married no luck with finding a good man. I saw him recently and he is married now. All I could think is that his wife is a very lucky woman. I hope my story helps you.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (21 May 2010):
 There are LOTS of positions out there designed specifically for making a small penis feel great, just do some internet searches. Whatever you do, do not mention his size! This is one of those rare times when talking will not accomplish anything but to make him feel really bad. There's nothing he can do about it. In the end though if it's really really something you can't deal with, you may have to find someone else. It wouldn't make you a bad person. People break up with other people over things like appearance, income, family situations, etc.. Not being able to please each other in the bedroom is a pretty serious issue. If you do decide you can't live with it, don't tell him that's why. I'd try to work on it before doing anything crazy though.
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reader, tu.paloma +, writes (21 May 2010):
Well if you really love him then his size shouldn't matter. like everyone else said, don't go trying to have a conversation with the man about his small package, just do some research online and if all else fails buy a vibrator.
but if its really a big deal for you then just say good-bye now and save urself some trouble.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (21 May 2010):
 I don't recommend making a big deal about it and actually having a specific talk about it. If you do some searching online there are actually articles with some information for people in your position. They give tips on which sexual positions would make his penis feel bigger inside you (doggie style for example but knowing the exact type of position is helpful)
Yes, you may have needs.... but as BunnyTee said, they are a package deal. Nobody's ever perfect. There was another post on hear yesterday about a man who is too big for all of his partners. It does happen. Being in love and having a connection is first and foremost. In the end, if you truly love each other you will find a way to satisfy each other. Maybe not the traditional way, but there are lots of other more creative ways out there...
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (21 May 2010):
 News Flash! This is a package deal. Comes with the guy, sweetie. No puns intended. Accept him, accept his appendages. He's no doubt very aware of his size, or lack thereof as the case may be. I don't recommend drawing too much attention to his "shortcomings"
Deal or don't. There's not much he can do the change the situation, really. Alot of gimmick's out there, but it is realyt THAT big of deal? Now that didn't come our right at all.
I'd say it's what's inside that counts but that wouldn't come our right, either.
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