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writes:I'm seriously bad at summarising for these questions, but I'll try to keep it short. Basically, last night at party I got with my ex who I broke up with two years ago. I can't believe it actually happened, because I seriously never dreamed he wasn't even vaguely interested in me. Anyway, I was a little drunk, but sober enough to know what I was doing and he didn't seem very drunk, though he said he'd drank quite a lot of beer. You know the silly things people say when their drunk, but this was different, because we have such a huge history. He said he loved me and I said I loved him back, but let's face it, people say "I love you" all the time when they've been drinking. Okay, I guess there's only so much advice I can be given here, as none of you are the guy, but why hasn't he texted me? I know hooking up with your ex at a party probably wasn't the smartest thing to do, but it seemed like a good idea at the time. + I have to admit that deep down, I would definitely consider getting back together with him, if he was interested. I can't text HIM, because we've barely spoken since we broke up and my phone broke a few months deleting most of my numbers, so I never asked for his as we didn't speak for so long. It's really bugging me that he hasn't contacted me. I'm worried that to him it was nothing more than some drunken kissing, but he said so many honest sounding things about our break-up last night and I know him well enough to not think he was saying them to coerce me into going further with him (as he knows full well I wouldn't sleep with someone in public at a party + I haven't even lost my virginity yet and want it to be meaningful etc.). So if it seemed to mean so much, why not text me or something this morning? Even if it's just to let me down gently.I know there's nothing I can do but wait and see effectively, but some ideas about what's going on would be nice. Perhaps he's just thinking things over? Yeah, basically, I'm looking for emotional comfort because I'm a little scared it didn't mean anything to him and it's really hard to concentrate on my homework today because I keep waiting for a message or something letting me know he at least REMEMBERS what happened. Thanks for any advice, btw, even if it's just saying I should forget about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2012): I think that you should move on. You said that you two have a huge history. Ok, maybe you do have it, but let's be serious, you went out with him when you were 14? Don't you think that a relationship at that age is not something to call huge? You were both younger, and you were just exploring the new world of the opposite sex. Now you are years older, still young however to re-try to make things with youe ex work. You should remember that an ex is an ex for a reson. Most probably he woke up with a headache etc the day after the party, and either he forgot what he said to you, or else he came to his senses thinking that re-trying with an ex is not the ideal thing to do. However you feel upset because he didnt try to contact you again. Maybe he doesn't have your number either. That could be a reason for it too. If I were you however, I wouldn't try to get his number..I would just try to look forward, and not look back in my past.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 February 2012):
 You should forget about it :).
Sweetheart, you sound cool headed and aware, and you have basically answered your own questions. People say a lots of emotional things when they are drunk , which they forget about or are ashamed of when sober.
Wishful thinking always makes you feel like " that's what everybody else does, but in MY case it was different ". How was it different ? because he sounded sincere ? he probably WAS... in that moment. In that very moment . With the drinks, and the sexual tension, and the surprise of having met you again etc. The day after, he probably woke up with a headache and shrug it off, - nothing major happened because after all, as they say rather inelegantly in my country " kisses don't pierce holes ".
I may be wrong, of course, and I hope I am. But in any case , remember : if you want to have a more reliable , and realistic, idea of what a man feels about you, you have to deal with him when you are a) both sober and b) not in the middle of hooking up.
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