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writes:ok, so I'm 36 so in theory should be old enough to know what I want. But, I'm wracked with self-doubt and indecision. I have a 6 year relationship with a good (if dull) man. We are engaged and have one lovely gorgeous daughter. But I don't love him, and we haven't had sex since my daughter was born (about a year ago). It upsets him that we haven't had sex, and I feel guilty - but I don't want him touching me. I now realise I've spent the past few years thinking about other people when I've had sex with him. I'm wondering whether to leave. I don't need him financially (although it is undoutedly easier with him). I would never stop him seeing our daughter, as he loves her dearly - as do I. But I don't think we are a couple any more - we're just friends (without benefits!) Thoughts..?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2010): Why dont you love him? You didn't tell ,what is wrong with him?
Do you love someone else? He is the one ,who does not want sex,or you?I think, without this facts, it is really hard to help you..
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reader, mizz.butterflies  +, writes (6 September 2010):
 maybe u're having depression. go to counceling with him
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (6 September 2010):
I would say that this might be worth fixing first. He is a good man, and what you're feeling could be effects of having your daughter, or just that your relationship needs kicking into gear a bit. I think it's worth sitting down and explaining that you're unhappy, and that you need couples counselling. If that fails, then think about a divorce. But it would be a shame to break the marriage when you've just had a daughter if this is something that can be fixed.
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