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anonymous
writes:I have been with my girlfriend for a while now but recently I don't find her attractive anymore. When I met her she use to dress up nice and I was a very lucky girl to be with her, but things have changed because she started to dress like a man and I don't like that. I like girls that look like girls not that look like boys. I'm a lipstick lesbian and I'm attracted to other lipstick not the butch. I told her I don't like her new style and shes says this is her and I have to accept it if I want to be with her, but the truth is this is not who she was when we started going out. I guess my question is who is in the wrong, Am I wrong for wanting her to dress like before, or is she wrong for demanding I accept her how she is now. She was different in the past she was more my style.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (5 May 2010):
 She changed, and you are not in the wrong for not liking her new ways. But she is allowed to change as well, and be who she feels she should be. Sounds like it is time to move on and find someone that is right for you!
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reader, rainbowmaker  +, writes (5 May 2010):
 To be honest i dont really think either of you are WRONG. It seems that she may have lost a bit of respect for not just you but herself. If she was a really girly girl before then i suggest that you ask her why she has suddenly changed. You have to remember though that looks aren't everything. Surely down inside she is still the same person that you started going out with? People change, i know i dress differently now to when my partner and i got together. Talk to her and find out whats changed. Good luck!
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reader, Dinkie +, writes (5 May 2010):
we cant help who we are attracted to but if she has changed you should accept it or if you dont feel the same about her now that shes changed then its time to move on. she has the right to be how she wants to be but if thats not what you like then it wont work
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reader, raiders +, writes (5 May 2010):
 I don't think you can force yourself to like certain things, If you don't like pineapple we can't make you like pineapple.
As for your girlfriend maybe she has found who she is, and it would be unfair to make her change.
Maybe you two can compromise.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (5 May 2010):
 If she's happy with the way she looks and doesn't want to change then you either have to accept her choice or move on. Your decision.
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