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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I've been married for a number of years, we're in the process of buying a house and moving accross country. My best friend is female and everyone else has always said how well we get along and likened us to a married couple ourselves but it has always been plutonic.There does seem to be a spark between us, but neither of us ever went there, so to speak, and put it in a box and forgot about it. What with my family moving away, my friend and i have become a lot closer and we kissed. Things went on as normal and it hasn't ruined our friendship but it has led to my questioning my move. I'm wondering if its cold feet, if i'm questioning my marriage because moving is in some way so final or whether i really do have genuine felings for my friend or if its simply a way of telling me im not as commited to this move as i thought?I'm really not sure what to think about my own situation but i know i'm not about to do a runner with my friend or anything like that, i do stil love my partner, im just really confused and not sure what to do...I'm hoping its just simply cold feet. But if its not, and i move, and screw it all up, what then....Anyone been in a similar situation, some advice would be appreciated. ThanksD
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (4 February 2009):
 Cold feet when moving is totally normal. It's scary to go to a new place with no friends, no familiarity... I'm sure you're bummed about leaving your friend too. I think that maybe you suddenly are thinking "ohmyGodmaybei'velovedherallalongandnowi'llneverknow!" craziness, which is sort of a normal way to deal with moving away from someone so close. Do I think it's genuine? Not really, I think that you really love your friend, but if you've never had this crop up before, I'm thinking that this is moving/marriage/growing up (even at your age) jitters. Focus your attention instead on your wife - are you in love with her? Are you excited about your life together? Commit to her, your adventure and your new life together. It's totally okay to be nervous - I'll bet she is too.
Oh yeah, and no more kissing women who aren't your wife! You're allowed one little slip up - this was it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2009): Hey DWell, this is very confusing.Maybe you kissed her cos you like her or maybe you're anxious about the move and wanted a reason to stay.. maybe this move has triggered something inside you saying "OMG! I'm MARRIED!" and that boyish state where girls are smelly and play with barbies whooshed back for a minute, wanting to make yourself feel like a young free lad again you decided to act on impulse and try kissing this girl you liked?the main thing is, who broke off the kiss and was she kissing you back??
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