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writes:Ok, I know...I am CREEPI'm a WEIRD-OoooI don't belong here.I am 49 years old now, and I grew up on a Mission Field. I a 'missionary kid' but I'm a gay, male and I have a crush on a married male who is confused, I'd say, about their sexuality.He has kids too.What should I do? I am lonely and he says, he is too?What would you do if Jesus were me?(I'm supposed to be a Christian, if you know what I mean) (See above)What if he wants to see Jesus through me? Ok, I know that was weird.Please, give it your best shot
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (16 September 2010):
 Don't bash yourself. Attraction is not a crime but as this man is married with kids and doesn't even know if he's really gay, making a move just wouldn't be the right thing to do. You will both feel burning, unbearable guilt if you do anything...there would be nothing pure or beautiful or good about going through with this attraction. Stay away from him because you know that temptation is hard to resist when its sitting beside you or crying out that its lonely. You're not a bad man, your conscience drove you here. So, keep yourself busy, keep your distance. You also need to come to terms with your religion and your sexuality. You can't change who you are and if your religion can't love you as you are, it's not for you...Doesn't God love all of His creation? Why should you be scorned for being true to the way you were made? If you're troubled, see a counselor or a spiritual leader with no religious denomination. One day, I'm sure, you will find the love you seek :) but it's not with this man...
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (16 September 2010):
 'I want' 'I want' 'I want'
You have the potential to cause pain and suffering and tormenting confusion with your 'I want'
By your words you seem delusional and in a state of extreme confusion over yourself, your faith, your sexuality, your being.
The correct way to go would be to accept this guy is married and has a family. You need to leave well alone.
It is NOT within your power to decide what he wants. It is not your business to tempt him away with your 'I want' and cause a bomb to go off within his family...you will find no peace.
Address your own personal problems. If your faith denomination does not accept your homosexuality, then find one which does!! Be responsible for your own self. If you are a gay man, the rules apply as if you were heterosexual...DONT GET INVOLVED WITH SOMEONE WHOS MARRIED TO SOMEONE ELSE!!!!!!!!!
Find a single gay guy who you can get to know.
You think your a creep because your so in denial and confused.
You need to find the right path to happiness...an unselfish path and one where you can be true to yourself and avoid causing heartache.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (16 September 2010):
If you were Jesus I'd wonder why you wouldn't have an answer to this? And I always strangely assumed you were straight.
If he wants to see Jesus through you, I think he should smoke whatever you've been smoking.
But if your question is at all serious, it sounds like you're only assuming he's confused about his sexuality? What leads you to believe he's confused about his sexuality? Also, if he's married and has kids, I think you should let him be confused on his own and figure out his own problems and don't try to "help" him figure out his sexuality. WWJD? I definitely don't think he'd try to hook up with a confused married dude with children.
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