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Friend of my ex was put up to break my heart! How do I get over this?

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Question - (27 August 2013) 3 Answers - (Newest, 28 August 2013)
A female Australia age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hey everyone,

About 2 years ago,I met this guy at my gym we had the same trainer we started talking,hit it off,he asked me out but from the very start I wasn't looking for anything serious,I made it clear to him..he fell in love with me things got messy,I stopped seeing him..

Now a year after that I met this other guy who I really like even love,yesterday he broke my heart..he put up this act for his friend(the guy I met 2 years ago) and he was asked to break my heart!

I was shocked at how cruel people are!

How do I get over this?

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A female reader, sugarplum786 South Africa +, writes (28 August 2013):

sugarplum786 agony auntSorry that your ex was such an ass. Trust me this guy that played you, will always live with the guilt and certainly not forget the relationship. He is not worth it and remember he had to feel something or he would not just have been intimate. I will not be surprised if he comes back crawling.

Move on and forget this episode.

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (27 August 2013):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntYou don't ("get over it"). Instead, you chalk it up as an unfortunate experience of life... having met two of what have to be the most sinister guys I have ever heard of.... and turn away from them, and never look back.... and hope that you never run in to anyone so creepy again, for as long as you live....

THEN, you go out and (continue having) have a great life.

Good luck....

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (27 August 2013):

Honeypie agony auntWow how callous!

Well, how do you get over it? You accept that there are assholes out there who likes nothing better then to make others as miserable as they are.

Don't let their actions and pettiness get to you, best revenge is NOT to hurt whomever hurt you, it is to ENJOY life, because obviously they can't. (at least not without hurting others)

Learn from this. Not everyone can handle a casual relationship, so before you get into one, make sure the other party can handle it. Which means.... see them for a while get to know them BEFORE asking for something casual.

NOT that YOU did anything wrong other then hook up with a guy who couldn't handle the "rejection".

You know Karma will hit the both of them at some point in life. I hope dude #2 will realize what he did was asinine and cold. And guy #1... wow to send someone else to do his "dirty work" what a head case!! That should tell you that you did the RIGHT thing back in the day when you stopped seeing him.

Take a deep breath and let it go.

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