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writes:My little girl was on my boyfriends phone playing a game and showed me that someone had text. it was his ex girlfriend but the entire conversation was deleted and it was her replying obviously to something he'd said.Its making me really down in the dumps. They split up 10 years ago and have no kids, she cheated on him and he told me they used to sleep in other peoples beds but didnt argue about it. Infact he told me they never argued at all and when im upset he constantly chucks that in my face. He bought me a mothers day present that she had made because she makes jewellery. He has a tin full of stuff that she made him. She posts pictures on his facebook wall. She had an operation and he bought her a wheelchair. I dont understand why hes texting a woman he split up with a decade ago or how he even has her nimber. hl He cacalled me a jealous f****r. I never get jealous of anyone ive forgiven men for cheating and can move on easily. Hes making me miserable because he cant see that its inappropriate the way he is. Am I over reacting?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2013): He did hide texts and delete past messages i have no idea what they were talking about or what it said. Thats what i dont like. Why hide that? And his friend keeps calling me her name.....Constant reminders of her. TThe pictures on facebook are those two from years ago together. His tin is full of her bracelets. I dont think its just a friend thing if hr comparesour relationship to theirs. By the way hes very jealous of me he got intomy facebook account and is extremly jealous of my exes but i dont talk to them or bring them up. Thing is shes put on loads of weight, shes not attractive at all. When they split up she came running back when she needed money but dumped him again when she was done. To be honest she repulses me and the only reason I kbiw what shes like is because of what hes told me. I just fimd his need to talk to her is bizarre!!
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (11 April 2013):
 Hi, you are unhappy about your BF and his ex relationship, and he choses not care about how you feel, so what I dont understand is why are you still with him.
When you love someone, you avoid causing them pain and avoid things that her them, clearly your BF thinks the ex is not worth giving up for you. You have your answer regarding who is more important. You just to accept reality and let this one go.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (11 April 2013):
 There are some ex's I am friends with and they are people I split up with over 5 years ago. Is my boyfriend jealous? No because we have a happy relationship and I am not inappropriate with my ex's.
I guess it is not clear from your post the nature of the friendship with his ex. Does he text he or call her constantly? Are they talking late into the night? Do they meet up a lot? What sort of pictures does she post on his wall? What is in this tin that he has?
From what you have said it sounds quite innocent, they dont sound like they are having an affair or anything like that - they are simply friends. If they have been friends for a decade now, chances are they have been friends longer than they were in a relationship so I'd stop viewing her as an 'ex' and just think of her as a female friend of his.
I personally would not be jealous if my boyfriend had a female friend, it wouldnt bother me. It would only start to bother me if they were being inappropriate i.e. late night texts, him getting secretive about who he is talking to, meeting up all the time etc.
I think you probably should just let it go, they are friends and leave it at that. Unless your relationship is really bad at the moment and he is being overly inappropriate with how often he contacts her, then I dont think you have any right to be jealous to be honest.
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reader, Fender  +, writes (11 April 2013):
I do believe it is possible for ex's can be good friends. But not always. I can sort of see why his behavior, could made feel little neglected and insecure. People often forget how powerful the word ex holed. ex mean the past this case 10 years ago, therefore whatever there was it happen a decade ago. The fact he brings his past relationship and comparing them yours during argument make me think his bit of a swore loser. Remember point of wining argument is prove ur point is right, to do sometime your need piss the other person what better way they bring up an ex.if took the word ex out and just left as friend. He bought u as necklace that his friend made. Cause he love you and wanted to support a friend business. He got his friend a wheelchair cause his know his friend is still weak from major operations. Isnt that what good friends are foe.If really bothers you and still feel unease tell him that. good luck look at from his postions
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