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*ynxy
writes:Well , i like a lot of people, have been going through a tough time reccently, with , well almost everything, fighting an eating disorder, fighting alcohol abuse and just about everything else.Well my teacher,he has been there for me, to listen to me (it was thanks to talking to him i had the courage to give up being an alcoholic and seek help) and basicly not give up on me like everyone else has, when frankly even my own parents have, and i've grown rather attracted to him.Its wierd, as I basicly see him as the 'father figure i've never had' but im begining to fancy him.what should I do?
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reader, agony aunt j +, writes (18 March 2007):
 i think at the moment you are feeling vunerable and unsafe so you are developing a little bit of a crush on someone you never thought you would. although you may be attracted to him he probably sees it as just helping a student out and being there for them, so i wouldn't do anything you might regret. If he is treating you better than anyone else and is the only one who hasnt given up on you, perhaps you are feeling extra attracted to him because he is being so nice. this doesn't mean you like him because of who he is or anything else. it's probably just because you feel hes the only one you can talk to. Atleast you have someone to help you through this, it's good you have someone you can trust and open up to. just be careful, you might look back and find that you were just looking for someone to be close to.
i hope things get better for you, though!
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reader, agony_uncle_r +, writes (18 March 2007):
your not the first and certainly wont be the last person to develope a crush on a teacher or a person who strictly speaking is out of bounds. the difference is with your feeling emotionally vulnerable and lonely i fear your feeling something that you dont actually feel. what i mean is because hes doing his job and caring for a pupil you feel that this is more than just an ordinary school crush. being a teen is hard, living is hard but im glad your fighting your problems and i really hope you win the fight as theres so much to life. strangely enough many of us feel our parents arent there for us and dont care when we're teens but im sure theyd be upset if they knew you felt that way.theres a lot at stake just for a crush, his job, your reputation, your education, him possibly being arrested. everytime you find yourself thinking thoughts of him you really shouldnt just remind youself of them
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reader, girlie girl +, writes (18 March 2007):
Yeah, there is a lot of us girls out there fancy our teachers. Yes, I fancy mine too, feel free to read my posting by clicking on my name and following link. I was given a lot of replies which have helped me deal with the situation.If you wish to send me a private messsage with more information, I would be glad to help.
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