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writes:Hello!So my bf and I needed a roommate for financial reasons and, due to extenuating circumstances, my very attractive friend moved in with us. It's a weird situation that I really did not want to get into. Before he and I started dating, he had expressed interest in her, but they didn't really click at the time. Now they get along great, although she is a tad too flirty for my comfort. Things have been going okay, but I'm concerned about the change in my bf's behavior. He hasn't been very flirty with her (at least not as far as I know), but his sexual appetite has greatly increased. He has initiated sex every night since she moved in, when I'm normally the one who has to ask him. And I still used to get some "not tonight, dear." It is an unusual change.Should I be worried about him suddenly being so aroused? Or am I being paranoid?Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your advice! I'm not certain what I should do yet, but I'm definitely going to talk to him about it. I hate having trust issues, but it seems hard to avoid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2012): You are definitely onto something. He's suddenly more horny once your friend moves in? This is no coincidence. I would start doing what he used to do to you, and turn him down. If he asks why, say "because I don't want you using my body to fantasize about my friend". If he denies it, point out he changed the DAY she moved in. That's so obvious, it isn't even funny.
On the other hand, if you like the change then just enjoy it. Still let him know you know it's because of your friend, though. That way, he knows he isn't getting away with anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2012): Maybe living with two females is something that (like most men) turns him on, and this is why since she has moved in, he's become more sexually aroused with you.
On the other hand, If someone sees or hears other people having sex, they get aroused themselves. Maybe your boyfriend is hoping to arouse your friend into initiating a threesome with you and him?
Or maybe he's just trying to make her jealous into wanting sex with him?
Just a few thoughts. . .
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reader, ulick  +, writes (20 September 2012):
 Guy to guy. He's definetely turned on by her and thats why he wants more sex. If you can handle him not trying to sleep with her and you like the additional sex then try to deal with it. But hey, its going to be very hard there will be so many accasions for him to approach her at home when you are not there that it will be very hard to resist.
In my opinion not a very smart move.
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reader, malletchick76 +, writes (20 September 2012):
 If he is paying complete attention to you despite your attractive friend coming into the equation, I would say enjoy it!!
However, I would pay attention to the type of sex you are having. Does he focus on you? Does he seem distant? Is he performing the same or better? Just make certain that he is thinking of you and only you while y'all have sex.
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