A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have a crush on my best friend who is my former coworker. At work we teased one another all the time while stay remaining professional and worked very well together. Our personalities are very unique compared to most people and we happen to be very in sync with one another. For example I'm studying kinesiology and she comes to me for health advice. She used to eat messily and not work out but she's more healthy and energized these days. I'm a terrible money saver and she has been helping me watch my spending. She is older than me and gives me great advice on college and life in general. And she is also a little clumsy. One time she booked the wrong day for her plane ticket and I caught it and fixed it for her. She wouldn't have even noticed until it was too late. The night before her trip I double checked her luggage and put in all the items she had forgotten while she just sat on her bed, watched, and pointed. We're not perfect but we're very in sync and keep one another in check. I love how our flaws match and I simply like her a lot. However I don't know how she feels. I'm more guillible and she's assertive and good at avoiding the topic. I asked her once and she said "no, stupid." I have had a close mutual friend ask for me but all he got was that she said she's unavailable (despite the fact I know she's single). Her nicknames for me include the annoying orange and little kid. I'm a couple years younger than her and unfortunately yes she thought I was the most annoying person in the world when she first got to know me. Do we have a chance? When we're on the topic of relationships she talks about waiting for the right guy to come along. And that she wants a guy 4 years older than her. I feel like she's friend zoning me but at the same time our best friends relationship doesn't feel typical. Knowing her, I'm sure she likes me but could be the reason she doesn't want to give it a shot? Could it be pride that she doesn't want someone younger? I feel like she doesn't want to be caught with the "silly guy" at work which is kind of what I am sometimes.
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reader, 1busybee +, writes (22 September 2012):
Ask yourself this question, are you enjoying each others company as much as possible right now? If the answer to that question is yes then forget about anything else for now. Just go forward spending as much mutually agreed upon time together and build on that. You can stay best friends and see where that takes you. If it is meant to be the relationship will move on all by itself. 2 years age difference is not a lot and a very minor and silly thing to even consider, especially when males die 5 years on average sooner than females. Work on finding out if you have a relationship first then all the rest will happen in due time!
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