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writes:I've been seeing this guy who seems really nice.He seems interested in everything I say. Hes very complimentary and affectionate. I got the impression that he really likes me but I'm starting to wonder if he does. The first few times we had sex everything was fine but then the next time he asked me to stop after I'd orgasmed and told me he'd had enough. The next time was similar he said he needed a rest so we just stopped. I feel like a failure because he didn't cum! I've never known a man do this before it seems strange to me. I have loads of questions running through my head, do I just not turn him on enough? am I rubbish in bed? Is he seeing someone else? Was he actually worn out? I could really use someone elses opinion on why a man would do this.Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2010): Hello he says stop I've had enough. Have you ever asked him what he means by that? If he's having trouble ejaculating as him why? Ask him if there's something he enjoys (within limits) that u can help him out. Could be anxiety, or pyscological reasons attributing to this. Sit down and discuss what the problem could be.
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reader, Problem.helper  +, writes (10 May 2010):
 You need to talk about why? There are many reasons why he stops like m ur not wet enough and then it really hurt and it's uncomfortable. But he should definitely tell you what is happening.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (10 May 2010):
 You need to listen to Lily Allen's song 'not fair'...it sounds like the situation you find yourself in. Frankly he doesn't sound that great in bed and a bit of a selfish lover. What goes on in the bedroom should be a two-way thing and if he shuts off to your advances in the way you describe then something is wrong. It clearly upsets you and can be confusing. You need to sit him down and tell him how you feel. There maybe some explanation for his behaviour that you are not aware of. However, if you are at the stage of a relationship where you are having sex then you should feel able to communicate with your partner about how you feel and what you need in the bedroom. If you don't communicate then you cannot expect things to improve.
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