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writes:i just learnt that the man i am in love with, who has separated from me for 3 months during which we were still fostering a relationship, has made another girl pregnant during which time he would have been going out with me.i know this is not a new story, but i really dont know how to deal with it. Also, i am working with him and even if i dont see him often, in the future we will have to spend alot of time together.please advise.
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reader, BadAsh6705  +, writes (26 November 2007):
 I think you need to move on and take yourself out of this situation! Even if he wants to be with you now, he has proven himself untrustworthy and he is willing to leave this girl who he impregnated in the dust. He doesn't seem like a very stable or loyal person to have a relationship with. I have been in a similar situation with a guy who was my boyfriend for awhile and I was starting to fall for when he got scared and broke it off. He was dating another girl for awhile which didn't work out and after they broke up, he came back to me and we were starting again when he found out she was pregnant. At first, I wanted to be with him still so badly that I didn't care that she was alone and dealing with being pregnant by a man who didn't want her baby, but after awhile I realized how selfish that was and how awful for the baby. We eventually parted ways and now he and the mother are still together and just had their baby. I got over it, so will you.Just think of how you would feel if you were that girl. Even if you do stay with him, you will have to deal with her and the child in your life constantly.
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reader, love-him  +, writes (25 November 2007):
 Hi, are you getting back with this man or is he staying with the mother of his child? You should just ignore him as much as possible when you work togetrher as this cannot be helped. Dont let the situation ruin your work life. I hope i helped :) Feel free to mail me about anything :) x
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (25 November 2007):
 If I were you, I would end the relationship and find someone else.
It's hard to stand our ground with people we love. We want to forgive and forget, because we want to think problems are just temporary and they will go away. But, no matter how much you love a person, you need to set limits. There need to be things you won't accept or tolerate even from the person you love. And I believe you should not tolerate cheating.
I see you love the man. I wonder if he loves you. He slept with another woman while he was seeing you. This isn't the sort of thing that a man in love should do.
If you accepted his cheating, you would be telling him that he can get away with anything. That would be a huge mistake.
On the contrary, if you stand your ground now, any time he sees you in the future he will have to respect you. He will know he wasn't able to play games with you.
All the best.
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