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writes:Hi, So I get this txt from a potential love interest to say....Could'nt get your call, in a meeting, thanks for your email, all the best for Easter, Will talk next week, Take Care, -----. What does take care mean? This is the first I have ever had. Is this a brush off?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 April 2010):
 You sound surprised that people may act politely :)You e-mailed him Happy Easter, then you called him. He texted you Happy Easter. That's what people do :)If he had not bothered at all to respond, that would have meant, yes, that he's not into you - but mostly that he's uncommonly rude I am not tryng to convince you that the guy does not like you - I am just encouraging you to expect being treated with due courtesy by the men around you as a normal everyday occurrence and not as some mysterious accident.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (4 April 2010):
 Because he a man and it would be ungentlemanly nor to reply even if it is a missed message. He had some respect for you .It is politeness.
Men and women do not react the same.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to all that have replyed with their thoughts. I have tried so hard not to over think the message, didnt work though. The situation is complicated and I guess I didnt want to over step the mark. Taking into account over half a dozen views, (thanks again) I dont think it was a brush off, maybe a nice way of signing of the text. It makes me wonder though, how many guys would respond to a missed call - no message left, by return txt, if they did not want to keep up contact? Would you just not bother?
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (3 April 2010):
Generally but with exceptions,most guys would reply the e-mail or missed calls as it would be impolite and rude even if they have no interest in the gal.They want to behave as a gentleman.
'Take care 'is just a polite phrase like 'Have a nice day.' It has no connotations.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (3 April 2010):
I don't think it's exceedingly "nice" to reciprocate a message of wishes- I think it's pretty normal. It's a matter of being normally polite.
I am not saying your "love object " is not interested or does not like you - I am saying you can assess that in the general context from the whole of your verbal and non-verbal communication . and not from what would be for many people ( not all, of course ) an act of common courtesy
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionumm, thanks to all who helped in thier reply. i guess my initial reaction when I read the txt was that he really does care! hence "take care" added to close. This is an interesting topic as so many views are different.Would a guy just simply not repond to a missed call (n message) and an email wishing well for Easter only,(very generic - that I had sent. I would never respond if i was not interested. Could a guy really be that nice that he would feel he has to reply, even if he does not want too?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionumm, thanks to all who helped in thier reply. i guess my initial reaction when I read the txt was that he really does care! hence "take care" added to close. This is an interesting topic as so many views are different.Would a guy just simply not repond to a missed call (n message) and an email wishing well for Easter only,(very generic - that I had sent. I would never respond if i was not interested. Could a guy really be that nice hat he would feel he has to reply, even if he does not want too?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 April 2010):
I don't think it's a brush off. I think he's just taking it slow and is being careful. Spend more time getting to know him when you can, and see where it leads.
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reader, sarcy24 +, writes (2 April 2010):
 Mmm.. I think it is a kind of playing it cool text but definitely not a brush off. After all he bothered to text and men won't text or respond to a text at all unless they are interested. Take care is being friendly and professional sort of registering an interest but not being wanting to be seen as too keen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): "Take care" is definitely not a warm enthusiastic way to end a text. It seems like he doesn't want to see you any time super soon.
In fact, I've used those words for someone I never planned on seeing again romantically.
At the same time, I use those words for acquaintances whom I like or friends I don't see that often. So it's not a bad thing, but again, in these cases I don't expect to see them anytime soon.
BUT in your case, looking at the context of the whole text, it seems like the "take care" just means he's not planning on seeing you for a while (not that he never wants to see you). I would just sit back, not worry too much about it, go do your thing, and see if he texts later. If he doesn't after a week (?) you might want to consider if you like him enough to get back to him.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (2 April 2010):
Uhm. "Take care " maybe won't be the ultimate brush -off, - but surely it is not so warm and encouraging. it's the kind of bland, non committal thing you say to a person you are not that much into, but for some reason you feel crossing her off your list is too drastic.
I am sure you'll come across soon other more enthusiastic love interests- ditch the unenthusiastic one.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (2 April 2010):
 I don't think it is a brush off. He bothered to reply which suggests he is at least a little bit interested in you. People are busy at Easter with family commitments so just wait. Don't contact him again and just wait to see if he really does call you next week. If he doesn't, he was brushing you off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionumm, I have heard so many conflicting assumptions on the meaning "take care", some regard as a brush off, or even a "dont keep bothering me". I am keen to hear the general consensous! thanks all.
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