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writes:Evening all,I have been with my fiance for 5 years (we have a long distance relationship) and the initial spark has gone for me.. he however is still loving and attentive as he was when we 1st got together. I do love him but I no longer get that excited feeling when we see each other and we speak every week on the phone but even that gets boring for me - I'd rather watch a film or be on facebook!I know that the feeling of that initial excitment dies down after a while but after speaking to my aunt and some close friends who are married and have been with their partner for many years they said that they still get that tingly feeling when he gets in from work or when they text etc...Does this mean I don't really love my fiance?
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reader, 1trainer1 +, writes (30 October 2008):
love is a strong and strange thing, it is very personal but as you said you dont get the tingly feeling when you talk and see rach other I would find that very hard...
you have to be honest to him as trust me as a guy we need honesty because as much as we dont want you to hurt our feelings we appreciate honesty a lot more and will respect you a lot more...dont lie to get his hopes up only to then destroy them time and time again...
good luck...
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (25 October 2008):
Love is different for everyone. Some people feel and want to feel that tingle when they are going to see their man, and some people want a deeper respect and friendship after a while and think the romance is silly.
The fact that you are only speaking once a week and you don't even want to do that does suggest to me that you have just lost your feelings because you never see him.
When you see him if you still feel nothing and you want to then yes, you may have fallen out of love with him.
Good Luck!! xx
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