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writes:This is long... sorry about that!Last semester there was this guy in my cooking class (let's call him "X"), who I sometimes would talk to. A few days after he broke up with his girlfriend we were both assigned to clean the same kitchen area. We started talking and we didn't stop until the end of class. At one point I was standing on the counter, cleaning the top cupboards, and I said "I hope I don't fall." "X" replied with, "I'll catch you." :) Later on we were talking about cooking and he said "I used to love cooking with my ex." Why would he bring that up?Two days later it was our last day of class before exams and we all got to go to a restaurant for lunch. Before we left I was standing in the class near "X" while he talked to some guys. I went to a different part of the class and he walked up and started talking to me. Then at the restaurant I ended up sitting directly across from him. He noticed this and said "This may be weird for you because I tend to stare at the person directly across from me." Then we had a long conversation during which "X" made pretty intense eye contact with me.I haven't talked to him since then. I've seen him in the halls and we usually look over at each other. Yesterday I was standing with my friends when he walked by us. I looked at him and suddenly his head shot down. I wanted to smile at him but I couldn't because he wasn't looking.Do you think he's interested in me? I want to get to know him better. Should I add him on Facebook and strike up a conversation? We haven't spoken in a while and I don't want it to be weird if I suddenly start talking to him again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay, it's been almost two months since I first contacted him and we've seen a lot of each other. He admitted that he likes me. :) I'm so happy I made the decision to talk to him. Thanks again for your help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks you two... Good answers! I added him on Facebook and he added me back so that's a good sign. ;) I'll get to know him better and see where it leads.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2011): The reason he told you about his ex was because she was at the top of his mind, and understandably so if cooking was special between them. However, in choosing to share that with you he does see you as a friend.
He is obviously attracted to you -- the head shooting down is a sign of 'guilty' thoughts.
The question is if he wants to follow up on that attraction. And men are all different, so who knows?
The only way to find out is to ask. No need to be dramatic, just ask him out.
If he refuses, ask him if it would be OK to ask again in a few months. Men often go a period of introspection and self-improvement after a break up and may not be immediately ready to enter another relationship.
Female friendship and company is valuable to men who find themselves suddenly alone. So there's little risk of damaging your friendship by asking.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (22 April 2011):
 It sounds like maybe, but he also may be on the rebound. There's no harm in getting to know him better though. The worst outcome is he's just not interested and you move on. But if he does like you (and it sounds like he might) getting to know him better might very well lead to you two going out.
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