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*ldiesGyrl
writes:It's been almost a year since the break-up between my ex and I, and we haven't spoken to each other since. Well, when I decided to check my Facebook page I noticed that I had a new friend request. So I simply clicked to find out who it was, and it happened to be my ex's 13 year old son. You should've seen my reaction when I saw this because it was unexpected, and it caught me off-guard. I wish I had recorded it.There are two reasons why I'm weirded-out by the request:1. I've only spoken to his son a total of three times.2. During the relationship period, not once did his son request me. I haven't been his (my ex) friend on Facebook since the break-up, so I'm wondering what or who the motive is behind the request considering the fact that most of his son's friends list (in which is public) consists of friends, friends of friends, and close family members. He had his Facebook page at the time his father and I were still together; so he isn't new to the site. And also, he has well over 500 friends on his list; so I doubt his intention is to gather as many friends as he possibly can to compete with others in his age group.My ex may or may not have put his son up to it. But then again, who else besides him could be the motive? *shrug*Although I may be reading too much into it, what is your opinion about all in which I've explained?
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (23 April 2012):
 I say go with your gut feeling for this one. It not like it is even difficult to avoid this issue which is good for you. It may be harmless but it's not worth the risk.
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reader, OldiesGyrl +, writes (23 April 2012):
OldiesGyrl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou definitely made some good points. And yes, my ex is much older than me; he's 34 to be exact.
It's too suspicious for so much time to have passed, and then out-of-nowhere his son requested me. Of course I wouldn't know whether he is or isn't behind it, but I just feel it in my gut that he is. After all of this time I just can't see his son suddenly realizing who I am on his own without his father having concocted a plan through him to try to keep tabs on me, and also to try to see what I'm up to. It's possible that he thinks I'm dense in terms of not being able to piece it together. Although the case may not be what I suspect it is, my instinct is screaming at me loud and clear that it IS what I suspect.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (22 April 2012):
It does sound too suspicious to just be a coincidence that the son all of a sudden wants to contact you. I also take it that your ex is much older then you just on the basis of the 13 year old son. I think something is going on hear and since you never were a part of this kids life I wouldn't even accept the request just to be safe. It would be diiferent if you has spent a lot of time with you.
It could also be the child acting on his own trying to snoop on who his father has been dating. Either way it doesn't look good and there is no reason why you would need someones 13 year old boy on your fb unless they were family.
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