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Does it feel the same when you masturbate as it does when you have sex?

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Question - (9 February 2008) 4 Answers - (Newest, 29 December 2009)
A female Germany age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I am a Virgin and I have just started to masturbate. Each time I do it it takes longer and longer until I get this amazing feeling which makes me shiver all over!! Does this mean I'm getting better at it? Also, is this an orgasm and does it feel the same when you masturbate as it does when you have sex?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2009):

You can tell if you are orgasming because you will feel your muscles autonomously clenching and unclenching for a period of several seconds.

You are getting better at it if you are feeling better after you do it than you did the time before. Generally, you only get worse at it because you start to get used to it.

Sex feels different because sex is all about helping to create a permanent bond that keeps two people together and allows them to build a family together or to BECOME family. You should not have sex with someone you are not committed to. Or with other girls, dogs, or children. There is no point in creating a bond with them because you can get something better by doing it with a man in a married relationship... a stable family.

If it's just about feeling good, then keep masturbating. Wanting sex is really about wanting to be close to someone. Your body craves to not be alone. It feels better because of the level of intimacy.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2008):

Most women think that mastubate and sex is the same thing but i said that both are totally different things . In Mastubation your enjoyment is one sided , it means you are losing "take" part. In SEX on the other hand is fullfill all your requirements. SEX improves your health and Masturbation makes you weak day by day. In simple words you are losing ur Partner Satisfaction.

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A male reader, DoubleM United States +, writes (9 February 2008):

DoubleM agony auntI'll agree with most everything LJ001 says below, especially her excellent thoughts on the greater value of lovemaking between a man and a woman in a good relationship.

For a virgin who is perhaps not ready for that, masturbation is almost a necessary way for you to explore your sexual likes, your body and especially the incredible pleasure complex generally known as the clitoris. It's much more than just that little hooded button down there, and by experimentation, you may learn about all this and can ultimately use it in a relationship.

Your description sounds like you are at least getting very close to orgasm - maybe even having one - but they will vary in intensity. Feels real good, doesn't it? But I think you have only reached the threshold of female pleasure.

One thing you might want to try is stimulating your so-called G-spot. It is a highly sensitive small area about two inches inside on your vaginal ceiling (toward the front). Insert two fingers and give yourself a gently "come here" motion in this area next time you start feeling those tingles. A knowing man can do it better because of position, but this may blast you into another world. Best wishes.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2008):

No, I would say that sex is definitely a lot more pleasurable, for several reasons. Obviously, these reasons are all given that you are in a happy and relaxed relationship, and you aren't uncomfortable or scared out of your wits! When you masturbate, most people are doing it to orgasm, enjoy it, and get it over with. However, during sex, it's about honesty, trust, beauty, two people becoming one... and pleasure of course! So many things come into a good sexual relationship, that increase the pleasure massively.

One main thing that increases the pleasure of sex over masturbation is the fact that you and your partner's pleasure is mutual. You are joining together, and knowing that you are both pleasuring each other is an amazing feeling. It's so different, being pleasured by another person, as they can find things you like that you would never have thought about otherwise! Your partner can reach places easier than you can, and just the very thought of them touching you in such sexual, sensitive areas is pleasurable by itself!

Yes, that sounds like you are orgasming, but obviously, not being you, I wouldn't exactly know. But what you have described sounds generally like an orgasm.

And as for your 'does this mean I'm getting better at it' question, I think this is a tough one. I don't think 'getting better at it' is the correct words, but yes, if you find yourself feeling more pleasure then you will be doing it better for yourself! Just as long as you enjoy what you do to yourself, and feel relaxed and comfortable, then it's all good. Masturbation is to be enjoyed, so don't worry about getting better or worse. After all, (presumably) you will be the only one who knows, so your pleasure should be the only focus.

I hope this was of some help :]

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