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writes:I have this friend that I've known fairly well for 4 years now, but over the past 2 we've gradually become closer. I had little crushes through the first 2 years, but my feelings would fade back into just wanting a friendship. For the past year or so I've had non-stop feelings for him, but never said anything until last year. Things didn't go the way I hoped when I told him, but he never said he didn't have feelings for me, he had other reasons. It took a little bit, but we eventually started hanging out a lot more, and have recently formed a tighter friendship. We have a lot in common, but he seems to go for girls who don't have much in common with him. Lately, though, he's been treating me and talking to me different, in a good way. At first I tried disregarding it because I tend to over analyze pretty much everything, but a mutal friend noticed and said something to me. He once told me of a dream he had where we fooled around. I'm not sure if that's his way of letting on, but that mutual friend said that it wasn't like him to casually bring up something like that, which i agree with. He's incredibly hard to read. Does this sudden change of personality towards me and the dream confession mean anything? If so, I've already come out with my feelings about 5 months ago, why wouldn't he just say something? Should I act on this hunch and bring up my feelings again?
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (26 March 2008):
 Men are like elephants, we like to play with out trunks... oh wait, no we got good memories, at least when it comes to girls telling us we have a chance of sex with them... eh that they love us.
Hate to say it but I think he just mentioned the dream because, well he mentioned it (don't over-analyse things) and the only meaning it has that at least in his dream he wants to fool around. Sure it wasn't a nightmare?
You don't mention WHAT he has been doing differently. Changed personality? Don't you mean he just acts different towards you? That is attitude/behaviour, not personality
Does he still go after other girls?
Frankly, he knows how you feel, so if he is after you, he could afford to be a lot more open about.
By all means, go for it, nobody ever died from being turned down twice, even if it feels like it, but with what you told here, I don't see any evidence that he has reconsidered.
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