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writes:hello everyone,I'm really confused and really need to know how i should go ahead.I have been single for a while now and a friend of mine told his best friend about me.While randomly facebooking on my friends wall...this guy added me nd we started chatting up....we talk on the phone tooo....I guess he knows that i like him......but he's kind of never flirted with me.....but he's curious to know if i was asked out by any1 on valentines day whereas he himself went on a date with his ex.......he also told me to find a girl for him....so i showed him few of my friends all of whom he rejected with some or the other reason........When we did go clubbing he held me hand and took me inside.....and although he was quite high...he asked me to kiss him on the cheek!!!!I'm really confused whether he takes me as a good friend or he likes me.if he likes me then why is he taking so much time to ask me out!!!he's definately not a shy type of guyPls help me.....does he want to be just good friends or is he interested in me? we have known each other for 3 mnths now!!!
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reader, Confusedhelpme2010 +, writes (2 March 2010):
Confusedhelpme2010 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe first time we went out with this friend of mine......when we were alone he stared right into my eyes......& i hardly knew him den......so I looked away.may b m giving all the wrong signals
Well once I entered a club with three guys.....as in one f dem happened to be my friend & other two came along with him.....So he told me he was disappointed in me nd den laffed it off & how i sud date that guy cos he seemed interested in me.....nd he kept rubbing this thin for a long time!!!.......so he was jealous .....Wat is taking him so long!!!!!!
Also I'm very traditional in all these things & wud never ask a guy out!!!!!
He's different from most boys i have met in many ways......& thats y im havn a hard time figuring him out!...
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reader, Confusedhelpme2010 +, writes (2 March 2010):
Confusedhelpme2010 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe first time we went out with this friend of mine......when we were alone he stared right into my eyes......& i hardly knew him den......so I looked away.may b m giving all the wrong signals
Well once I entered a club with three guys.....as in one f dem happened to be my friend & other two came along with him.....So he told me he was disappointed in me nd den laffed it off & how i sud date that guy cos he seemed interested in me.....nd he kept rubbing this thin for a long time!!!.......so he was jealous .....Wat is taking him so long!!!!!!
Also I'm very traditional in all these things & wud never ask a guy out!!!!!
He's different from most boys i have met in many ways......& thats y im havn a hard time figuring him out!...
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2010): I learned a saying a long time ago that has served me well...
If a guy likes you, you will know it.
If a guy doesn't like you, you will be confused.
So very true. Think about a time that a guy really liked you, did you know it? You bet you did...guys go after what they want, they are creatures of action.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2010): If you have to ask, he's not into you. Also, don't sleep with him just for the hell of it, a fling after a few beers one night. Then he won't respect you as a friend either. If he's interested after a while, he should ask you out, treat like a kind deserving lady that you are, and see how things devlop after that. But I have seen these flings turn out bad.... when they could have turned out good. Also, keep YOUR options open, and ask him about HIS friends. This might make him think of you in a differnt way, maybe even get jealous;)... not a bad idea:) Play smart, and don't get hurt by making dumb mistakes.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (1 March 2010):
He does seem to like you, but his messages are a little mixed. This means there is only one thing to do and that's to talk to him. And don't underestimate how shy he might actually be. Speaking to a girl is one thing, actually asking her out is another.
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reader, CaliMoore +, writes (1 March 2010):
 Well if you've known each other for 3 months and he's made no move i can see why your a little confused. Let him know that you like him, your decision how - you can either come out and tell him, hint to him subtly or be obvious.Once he knows you like him, it will be much easier for you to find out if he likes you back or not, knowing you like him will boost his confidence and might give him the courage to come out and say something.Spend more time with him, build a friendship as this is what relationships are built on. Ask him who he likes.Good luck, i hope this has helped :) let me know how you get on x
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reader, spinnaker +, writes (1 March 2010):
 He seems to be having fun innocently playing the field and exploring his options. The fact that he is still social with his ex is cause for some concern. Still he seems to be having fun and not ready for anything serious at the moment. IF you enjoy the time you spend with him, keep spending time with him but I would not pin any hopes and dreams on him settling especially after only 3 months. You are obviously a fun person and he feels comfortable with you if you are chatting it up as you say.Have fun with it and see where it goes. Just remember your boundaries and do not allow yourself to do anything you would not feel comfortable doing.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (1 March 2010):
 If I was you I would come right out and ask him what the deal is. It doesn't need to be intense or anything just a simple question like: "Hey dude, are we just friends or something more?" You could also add that you would be happy for it to be something more.
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reader, baddest_chikk  +, writes (1 March 2010):
 if you have none each other for three months and he still hasnt asked you out then most likely he doesnt.. try checking out other guys and being around other guys.. the way to see if a guy really likes you is to watch his reactions.. just like with grls...if a boy we like says another girl is pretty we immidiatly have somethinq neqative to say about that girl likeewww no she's notits in our naturee..let me know how things goand if he doesnt like u move on
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