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writes:Hi! Sorry...this may be a bit long but I just want to give everybody a bit of bakground info :)I met this amazing guy over the summer. Let me start by stating that I’m 24 and he’s 22, so this isn’t some high school summer love. He was just passing through town on his way to start school. However, he pushed his departure date back 2 months so we could spend some time together. I pretty much moved in with him on his friends living room floor for the duration of his stay. We did everything together; he met all my friends and got along great with them, he met my brother and gained his “approval”, we went camping, and just had an overall amazing time together. Then the inevitable happened…he moved 6 hours away to go to school. The “missing” is mutual and we talk every night and text through out the day. We quickly made plans for me to visit and I’m spending 6 days with him over an upcoming weekend. Here’s the “problem”…he’s asked me to move to be with him. We’re using my time there as a trial period to see if things are the same between us and give us some face to face discussion time about the future. I’m sorely tempted to but I’m worried that we may be jumping the gun. Most of my family is either where he lives or only a short ferry ride away. I have pretty much no ties where I’m living right now…but moving from my friends and the life I’ve made for myself is the only thing holding me back.We haven’t exchanged the term love, we haven’t placed titles on each other, and we haven’t actually discussed the long term effects of me moving. Yet. In all honesty, we’re crazy about each other, we get along fantastically, and we don’t want to have to wait weeks between seeing each other. We both want it to work…we just haven’t decided on what level.I’m just looking for some advice and guidance in regards to my situation.
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reader, Butterflyfly  +, writes (29 September 2007):
 I agree with rcn. Spot on.
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reader, L.O.S.E.R.  +, writes (29 September 2007):
 I can only tell you what I would do - I wouldn't move.It's great you two are connected that well but as you said,you have a life and friends already.I honestly share an opinion that love is blind ("amantes=amentes" etc) and don't think it's worth of throwing it away for a guy but hey,I couldn't possibly know all of the circumstances so don't take my opinion to seriously.But definitely take care,cause you can never get to know someone before you move in with him (and 6 days is too short for a trial) - try it (if you 100% feel like it) but make yourself a fallback if things don't go the way you expected them.Like,don't sell your house or tell your boss to go to hell cause you'll never see him again lol...And don't raise your hopes too high cause it's the easiest way to make your fall hurtfull.I wish you the best
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reader, rcn  +, writes (29 September 2007):
 Your crazy for each other, go with your heart. What is it telling you to do. Some people advance quickly. It's not wrong, just make sure before you do, the questions you asked are answered.
It really is not a guy thing. And sometimes when it's just right, time to hand the norm up on the shelf, and do something out of the norm. You're playing the what if game. We all do that anytime there is change we're considering, we try to justify reasons not too, instead of grabbing a hold of the opportunities that can have a huge positive change in our lives.
Take care.
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