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writes:Guys, do you think it's trashy for a girl to accompany a group of guys to the strip club?I think it's a certain type of girl who is willing to go along on this "adventure," and I dont't think she's the type you wanna bring home to mom/MAKE the mom of your own children one day.... what do you think?Do you like when a girl turns her nose up just slightly at this male-dominated activity? Not that she tries to prohibit you from going, but just wants to remain separate from such foolishness? Do you consider that classy or annoying? Reply to this Question
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (20 April 2011):
 Sigh, your right, and your more polite than me.
Try to do what you want to do, and not consider what men think. Men like all kinds of things, because all men are different. As you can see from the answers here, people have all different types of opinions.
Create the woman your proud to be and forget about other people and what they think.
Have fun and create your own world. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2011): I'm the anonymous female who responded earlier (who thought a lone woman attending a strip club with a GROUP of men was low brow).
Regardless of whether one is for or against women visiting strip clubs (with or without men), the social dynamics differ when a couple attends a strip club together and when a lone woman accompanies a GROUP of men. The way men behave in a group differs from how they behave when alone with a woman.
In the scenario the OP describes (and yes, OP, I did understand the question) the woman doesn't look like a slut to me. She just looks like a mug.
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reader, catcher00 +, writes (19 April 2011):
catcher00 is verified as being by the original poster of the question"I think you are very judgemental" that sounds a little judgemental to me.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (19 April 2011):
"I dont't think she's the type you wanna bring home to mom/MAKE the mom of your own children one day"
I think you are very judgmental.... trying to be a stuck up prude who is more holy than holy isn't anyone's idea of a fun wife...
Men like all kind of things, including adventurous women, who are up for a laugh and most of all kind natured and sweet to every person they meet.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 April 2011):
 men like to have women in the group with them the strippers feel safer and pay more attention to them.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (19 April 2011):
 I have no idea if that should make a difference? A girl going to a strip club, alone, with a boyfriend, with other female friends or with male friends, I think all you can assume is that she actually enjoys going there. And if she actually enjoys it then why not let her enjoy herself...?
I don't see a difference between a strip club and a woman doing other male dominated activities, such as going to a soccer game. Sure, there's not a lot of women at the game, but if she enjoys to watch the sport then kudos to her.
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reader, catcher00 +, writes (19 April 2011):
catcher00 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm sorry, my question was unclear. I was specifically not referring to going as a couple, with your bf or husband...but rather going with a GROUP of guys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2011): Most men don't have much need of a woman who is 'just one of the guys'. Part of what makes women so appealing to men is the fact that we're different. They already have guy pals with whom to engage in guy things. Secondly, men know (as do women) that one would be hard pressed to find one man, let alone a group, willing to tag along on 'girls night out'. Especially if the night involves a candle party, watching 'chick flicks' or male strippers. A woman who tags along on boys' night out knowing the men wouldn't waste time on her interests just looks like she's trying to curry favour.So yes, in my opinion it is low brow for a woman to attend a strip club with a group of men. And I suspect, whether they openly admit it or not, that her male companions have a little less respect for her for doing it.
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (19 April 2011):
how is there any difference between men going to a strip club and women? if it is a strip club with naked women, and a woman goes with a man, I dont see the problem at all.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 April 2011):
I used to go with my hubby... we had a blast all the time.I would go with my man now if he asked
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2011): I think strip clubs are a bit degrading but I wouldn't judge someone for going there.
I've been to gay strip clubs with my gay friends, and I'm a woman... so I'm going to give you a subjective answer. I say, not necessarily.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (19 April 2011):
I went to a strip club. The guy I went with was one who kept talking about marriage. Whether or not he was serious I have no idea, but on the face of things he wanted marriage. He had introduced me to mom and dad, and we lived together. We went to a strip club for fun, I'd never been at one and wanted to see what it was like. He was up for it and so we went, had a blast too. I got plastic boobs up in my face free of charge and my then boyfriend was impressed. It was interesting, not anything I need to do again, but I certainly don't think for a second he judged me in any way because of it.
Bottom line: if a guy loves you he loves you and wont judge you. When people are close and intimate in a relationship, and there is trust, they aren't scared by such things as strip clubs or threesomes or any other thing. For some it is a deal breaker, and that is fair enough. But where there is true love, and you are a person who thinks this is ok (or else you would have know they weren't right for you from the onset) there isn't going to be any judgment.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (19 April 2011):
 I've had some great girls take me to the strip club. In fact my rule is only to go if a girl takes me, or in a large group. I've gladly introduced those girls to my mom, because it's possible to be a lady and enjoy something like a strip club.
If you don't like them, then that's no problem either. Everyone has personal preferences, and when you find the right person, those preferences will mesh. It all depends on the individual.
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reader, lakers_lover09 +, writes (19 April 2011):
If a girl wants to hit a strip club with me it wouldnt bother me. Makes me feel good tht she can literally be my besg friend. Hpwever, if she would rather not go with me I see that as a sign of respect for my space and privacy. Either way, it depends on the guy.
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (19 April 2011):
 I know you want to hear from guys, but I fancy a bash at this question. Hope you don't mind.
I think strip clubs are trashy full stop and wouldn't want to go near them, or my partner to go near them, even though I know he has in the past when being "one of the lads". I think the whole idea is seedy, and wouldn't want to go to a strip club for women with almost nakid men either. Maybe thats just my being female or maybe I am prudish, but I just don't like the idea of sitting in a darkend room watching semi nakid strangers attempt to titilate me. But then if it were burlesque it's different. I would quite like to perform burlesque if I ever had the confidence and figure. But cheap, nasty strip clubs, with a bunch of guys? Nah I'd rather keep my dignity. The only reason to go with them would be to show that I'm "cool" and open minded. I'd rather show that I respect my self by not going into places that don't agree with my values.
I know guys protest their right as men to be perverts, but it doesn't sit well with me. There is a fine line between tasteful art of seduction and erotica, versus seedy, gross oggling and exploitation of young women.
I'm curious. Why does it matter to you what a man thinks about a woman's opinion of this activity? If a man wants to go to strip clubs it show he has little respect for what women think of this. If you have feelings either way, ie you like the idea of going to strip clubs or are against it, do what pleases you. If a guy respects you, he will respect you whatever your opinion.
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