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What if you feel he's meant for you, but has a girlfriend?

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Question - (18 April 2011) 3 Answers - (Newest, 19 April 2011)
A female Spain age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I'm not 100% sure how I feel, but just suppose... just SUPPOSE that you meet someone, get to know him, and realize that he's meant for you. Suppose he means a lot to you, no one will ever mean as much to you, and you've been searching for someone just like him, all your life... but, he has a girlfriend. You love him as a friend and WANT him to be happy but YOU want to be happy, too, and you can never feel that way about anyone else.

I realize that there are loads of people who would advise me to move on... but, what if you KNOW it's meant to be?

People tell me that eventually I'll meet someone who will love me... but, that doesn't meant that I'll return his feelings.

I feel torn... I'm not sure if I just love him as a friend or if he's meant for me, but I'm scared that I've lost my chance at being happy, forever.

I hope my English is OK, by the way... I apologize if I made any mistakes.

I'm originally from Cádiz (Spain) but I've been living in Cuernavaca (Mexico) for the past several months.

I just know that my heart is hurting so much, but I'm not sure why. I KNOW that I care about him as a friend, and I am feeling sad because I worry that the relationship will ruin our friendship. I want him to be happy and I know he's my friend but ever since this relationship started, I feel shut out! I don't think he'd do it on purpose but I feel so lonely for him!

I've thought about talking to him, but it's complicated. I tell him EVERYTHING, but talking to him about this is difficult.

Thanks if you can help.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2011):

Mil gracias! (Thank you very much)

Besicos desde Mexico! Kisses from Mexico,

Original Poster :-)

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A female reader, skittleslover United States +, writes (19 April 2011):

skittleslover agony aunti know exactly how you feel i am and was in the same situation.there is this guy and i tell him everything but never have i told him that i like him i flirt he flirts back and thats all its been because like you i dont want to ruin what we have....i know some people will not agree with what i will tell you but give him a kiss and if he feels the same as you feel about him then you know he likes you like you like him..well i wish you luck and happiness ~ciao

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A female reader, kryssy United States +, writes (19 April 2011):

kryssy agony auntok, so your english is wonderful. and i was in a similar situation with the guy that i'm with now. i think that if you just show him that you will alwyas be there for him, he might come to realize that he may love you too. but no matter what you do, don't try to stop the relationship he's in now, that will not make him very happy, you can drop small and subtle hints that tell him that you are interested, but let him be the one to decide what to do with his girlfriend. good luck :)

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