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writes:Broke people get lonely too. And this economy ain't looking up very soon. Do people believe in friendships without immediate financial benefits anymore. I'm by no means lazy or any of that. I' a hard working type guy .Any advice please? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 January 2012):
 When we got together I had debt. A LOT OF IT! I knew this and was working on paying it off.
We had a huge fight when he insisted on paying my debt off... I was NOT happy as I felt I now OWED him... but it was his choice.
I was not with him for his financial help... nor have I EVER dated anyone based on their income or savings.
IF you believe this to be why you are not able to find friends or dates perhaps you either:
a. are trying to date people of a different financial level than you are at or
b. are trying to date people who are of the same financial level but are using this as a smokescreen to not deal with the REAL reasons you are not making friends?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2012): It depends, it can be hard to make friends if you don't have much money to spare because you can't go out to clubs or resturants and just waste money on social stuff like drinking and eating together, going to movies, sports games, shopping, concerts, whatever, all those things cost money so if people are inviting you out and you have to keep saying no, then you aren't really building up a friendship, and they will eventually think you just don't want to hang out with them. Dating can be hard for the same reasons. although money isn't the only important factor people look for, it can have a huge impact on your freedom, what you can and cannot afford to do, and your own stress and anxiety, all of which can play a part in ending a relationship. However, your pre-exisiting friends shouldn't just leave you if you've lost your job or whatever, just explain that money is a little tight at the moment
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2012): Are you out of work just now....is that the problem?
Or are you just skint like alot of people? I know women that will only go out with rich men, thats their choice, I know others who will stick around because they want to, they are 'in it together' - so to speak.
So if somebodys trying to find financial security within a friendship, when they have little themselves, then I think its down to the personality.On the other hand I know men who like to date their equal so they don't get taken for a ride. Works both ways.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (16 January 2012):
 I ALWAYS insist - on the very first date - that a woman reveal to me her financial condition (including actually showing me her checkbook balance and a list of her securities and real estate holdings!).
IF she's too darn poor, then I dump her. IF she's fabulously wealthy, I pursue her like a monkey in heat!!!!!
Good question.....
Good luck....
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (16 January 2012):
 This is a rhetoric question, isn'it ? Of course they do. In fact, if people make friends in order to get financial benefits out of them, then they are not friends to begin with, they are just users and moochers and you are better off without them.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (16 January 2012):
 We'd be happy to give you advice, but you haven't given us much to go on. Obviously something has happened to you that has prompted you to ask. It would be helpful if you gave us a brief summary of the events instead of a vague, general question.
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reader, Kyle007 +, writes (16 January 2012):
I was once poor and alone then dated a millionaire. She did not care whether or not I had money, and if I cared about her money I would not have eventually broke up with her. You can find someone. Your money is not the issue. Find out what the real problem is.
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reader, Emily20  +, writes (16 January 2012):
 My dear,people still believe in relationship,with out financial benefit,am also a victim,what i believe is,if you love someone standing,by them and growing with them is what should be the ultimate sacrifice,just believe that relationship sometimes is built with or without financial aid,goodluck
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