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writes:This is a silly question maybe. I am 20 years old in uni never had a girlfriend. Been looking at myself and thinking about what I have or don't have...So looking at bad, the only thing is, a big thing in a way is that I am overweight. I am working to change that and am going to do a personal training program after christmas. I would do it now but have not got the money. Can still go the gym though.Positive sides - personality i guess- caring- intelligent- kind- loyal- generous- willing to put others first- learning to increase confidence- wants to know someone before having a relationshipIt's stupid to ask in a way, but a couple of people have said I have so much positive it more than overcomes the negative. I am starting to believe that.So 2 questions: am I right about that?andfor any in particular female members: Is my list considered "datable"?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 November 2009):
There's nothing wrong with you. Just take your time, get to know people and let them get to know you, and when the right girl comes along, you'll knotw it. Just don't rush.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWho said anything about sleeping with a girl? If I am to be with a girl I am after a full and rich relationship, not just sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2009): Do you see the girls in your school actually choosing who they sleep with based on whether their positive points outweigh their negative ones?
Don't just assume the answer is "yes" without thinking about it.
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reader, Sammycake +, writes (5 November 2009):
 There's no way someone on this site can answer with a definitive 'yes' or 'no'. You don't need the injection of opinions from complete strangers, and what you don't need is to go out seeking confirmation that you are indeed a 'good catch'.From what I can deduce, you're a morally sound, intelligent man who realises that there can be some improvements made to himself, and the same can be applied to anyone. However, what you also need to realise is that every potential girlfriend is different. Relationships are about caring for one another and being compatible, not about completely changing yourself because you're infatuated with someone. So, stop making lists and wondering why you're still single, sometimes it just takes time to find the *right* person.It's good that you're working on the parts of yourself that you don't like i.e. your weight, but don't go too far else you'll change too much.Good luck and all the best in the future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2009): You need to understand girls better, so they arnt so intimidating for you to ask out.
If you really want a gf then you really need to be friends with at least two girls who are your age and are the type of girl you want to date. Dont chase either of these girls as they are for you to get used to being around girls.
This is the best way to start ating
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