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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:Do men liked to be chased? When they're not calling and texting you is it because they do want to or they waiting for you to do it?
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reader, eek  +, writes (30 March 2012):
 personally. I love being chased.
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reader, Blonde68 +, writes (30 March 2012):
From my experience with men - They are hunters, and enjoy doing the chasing! If they arent texting you its because you arent on their mind or they arent that interested.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (30 March 2012):
 In my experience, when they are really interested, they 'll act on it- and fast. They won't risk letting an important catch slip through their fingers.
If they let you do the chasing they are not interested or at least not terribly so.
Of course , there is nothing wrong in being proactive and seeing if you can fan the interest , once they get to know you better. Why not ? Often if you want a chance at something, you have to create your own chance. But, always in a spirit of " buyers beware " : if he 's slow or remiss in making contact, chances are that atm you aren't that high on their priority list.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (30 March 2012):
 I think they initially like to know that you are interested so they can feel confident to pursue you. Men can be super insecure and they like to know they are onto a certain thing before they invest any energy. If you pursue them, you, in effect, kill the game, so you have to be patient and bide your time.
If a guy really likes you, he will call. If he doesn't call and you call him...he will run.
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reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth  +, writes (30 March 2012):
 My advice would be to not call or text until he does. Atleast not more than once anyway. The moment you text again after he fails to respond to the first text, you risk being branded desperate even though I know that's not fair.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2012): All I can say is, let him know how you feel. Then if he doesn't respond, he's not worth your time.
It's possible he never considered you as a romance partner or doesn't know how to play the dating game.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2012): yes they do like to be chased but so do women why wait go after what you want
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2012): The only man worth having is the one who pursues you ... If you "chase" you risk appearing desperate, which places you immediately in the inferior position in the relationship.You will always know when a man is interested in you and I don't just mean the ones who leer. The man who is truly interested WILL phone and WILL text.Of course, there are always the shy men - but in your age range I am sure you can tell the difference between shyness and indifference.Let's go back to the beginning and distill your enquiry ... wouldn't it be more honest to say you are interested in someone in particular, but haven't a clue if he likes you?Try to engage him in conversation and for goodness sake DO NOT FLIRT - not a good thing for women of our age to do! Just speak to him - if the opportunity arises - like a normal fellow member of the human race. If anything is going to happen it will do so naturally and without any chasing on your part.Good luck. Be happy!
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reader, Starlights +, writes (29 March 2012):
 It could be a variety of factors.
If you like someone i say go for it and text the man first, there is nothing wrong with taking control although most of the time men do enjoy the chase.
Things have changed so much with etiquette on who should text first etc
but me personally; i'd prefer the man to call me first!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2012): No, they don't want to be chased and if they aren't calling or texting, it's because you aren't on their mind. When a man wants you, you'll know. When he doesn't, you'll be searching for reasons why he's not doing this or that.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (29 March 2012):
 they dont like bunny boilers or stalkers but thats different to being pro active. if its a new thing then let them lead for a bit . if its an older relationship initiate but if they dont reply to a text/call then leave it till they do
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