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writes:I have a guy friend who has been in a relationship with his girlfriend for over a year. He claims to love her, but quite often he acts in a really innappropiate way around me, and sometimes other girls, that suggests he doesn't. For example, last weekend I went out with a group of friends (mostly guys) including him. His girlfriend wasn't there as shes under 18 so can't get into any clubs, bars etc. Hes always been quite flirty with me in the past, but when we all started drinking he took it to another level. I'd had quite a lot to drink, and he was being very cuddly with me and had me sitting on his lap, but then he started running his hands all over me and even trying to finger me at one point, despite the fact we were sitting in the middle of a bar.I got off his lap and went over to see some girlfriends. At some point I ended up getting off with a guy (we'll call him G) who this friend had introduced me to in the first place. Anyway we went on to a club, and he was still trying to grope me a lot and dancing really near me even though I kept moving away. Several times he said to me 'G got a kiss, when do I get mine?' to which I always reminded him about his girlfriend, but he just said 'so?'. I was kind of willing to give him the benefit of the doubt and put it down to the fact he'd been drinking a lot, but then the next day he said the exact same thing on msn!This isn't the first time hes said suggestive things to me, i usually put it down to him just joking around but now i feel kind of bad for his girlfriend. I feel like she should know what he can be like, but at the same time i'm scared of her finding out in case she thinks i've been leading him on, or telling her and her believing his word over mine. I saw him briefly today, and he jokingly called me a 'slag'. In my opinion this is a little hypocritical given the fact i'm the single one and he was coming on to me. How do i get him to leave me alone in future? Should I talk to him about it, or maybe talk to his girlfriend?! I'm a little worried as someone took pictures of me on his lap so this could be turned back around on me :S. Do i just leave it?
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reader, Jade87 +, writes (10 March 2010):
In my personal opinion i think you should just not tell her. The one who always gets in trouble is the one who tells. I sugest you stay away from this guy as much as you can. But if you do have to be near him make sure you have people round you as your witness.The girlfriend will find out in the end and hopfully leave this guy cause she is worth more then this.But in these cases she will blame the one who tells her about the cheatin.
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reader, Quizic  +, writes (10 March 2010):
Well sitting on his lap at all in the first place was a bad idea. If he's with someone you should know boundaries and that definitely sounds like one of them. He might feel a little bit led-on if you let him get as close as fingering you in public before getting up and leaving.
He sounds like a player and it sounds like you let yourself get played. I would talk to him first and explain to him what he does is inappropriate and unwanted etc. etc., then talk to his girlfriend and tell her what happened and how he was acting. She'll probably be mad at him and probably you, for good reason. A girl who didn't know he wasn't single had an excuse, but you do not. Especially if those pictures turn up. It's not all your fault, just sounds like you have a problem saying no and he has a problem with hearing it. Good luck.
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reader, Yarou  +, writes (10 March 2010):
 Well in my opinion you should go and tell her what is happening because if the guy who took a picture of you and puts it n fb she might go and make a big deal out of it.
Go tell her the truth maybe she would trust you who knows.
and even if she doesnt trust you you would have done the right thing and its her loss .
And go tell you friend too. tell him in his face that he has a girlfriend and that you cant bare the thought of him cheating on her.
I wish you luck :)
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