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writes: Hello, I have been living with a woman for 6 yrs now , whom , I love as a friend but thats it. She sleeps on the couch 90% of the time. We actually broke up last year for 2 months but I felt so sorry for her , because she was living in her mothers basement that I took her back. The problem is that my soulmate , who I love mentally , physically and who was a co-worker for 5 yrs but was married at the time, called me and said she was divorced. I'm just not sure if I could live with the guilt of sending my live in girlfreind away again. Should I stay miserable and feel like im doing a good thing or go for the love of my life, since I am getting older. I couldnt live with the guilt before , should I put these feeling aside? Im just so sad even thinking about it !Thank You
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2006): If you have the chance, be with your soulmate and don't EVER give them up. I am married to my childhood sweetheart. I love him, I do. But had I known there was love out there like I have found now...17 years and one child later....I would have lived through the pain of breaking up with what I thought was the love of my life at the ripe old age of 19. I have found my true soulmate and, unfortunately, we are both married to other people. We have both vowed to not break up our marriages because it is not our spouses faults and they have done nothing wrong. So the only ones hurting are us. But I would have this pain 12 times over if never knowing a love this deep and connected was the other option.
Go to your soul mate, make her your own and never let her go. Otherwise, in a year or two....you will have to much invested to leave her and you may have lost the one chance to be with your other half...the one that you don't jut love...but that you truly need to feel complete.
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (26 December 2006):
 If you do not take the oportunity now to be with your soulmate you may regret it forever and later resent your girlfriend for being the reason to stop you.
Friendship, guilt and resentment are not feelings worthy enough to stay with anyone. If you care about your girlfriend, be honest with her. Give her moral support and help her move on. That is all.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2006): I can understand where you are coming from in knowing what to do for the best.First of all above everything you have to put yourself first.You have been with this woman now for 6 years and it dosent sound as if it is a healthy relationship if she sleeps on the couch 90% of the time.And now this other woman (soulmate) has come along who could give you your happiness back and a relationship you deserve.You said yourself you are getting older and happiness dont come along that often.Personally i would tell this woman of 6yrs the situation you are in and say you want your life back i think you have done more than enough for this woman and it sounds as if you have had nothing in return except unhappiness.As i said put yourself first for a change and get your life back on track because the longer you are in this situation the more unhappier you become and resentment will kick in towards this woman if you pass the chance with this soulmate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2006): oh no, we are in a doozy arren't we. ahh...guilt. what would we be without guilt? first ask yourself this, is your girlfriend satisified with the relationship? because it could be she came back to you, tihnking you couldn't live without her. and stop being everyone's prince in shining armour! you can't feel bad for everyone and take their worries onto you to make their life better. you'll only be helping your girlfriend by letting her go so she can find someone who will love her more than a friend and have an intamite relationship...if you loved her, wouldn't you want that for your gf?
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