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writes:i've been going out with this guy for about 4 months but there were some complications before that. He still talks to his ex-girlfriend but thats only because it's his best mates sister, in the first month of being with eachother he talked to her for ages one night and then suddenly realised he liked her again and thought he didnt love me and it was a friendship where we just so happened to be going out aswell (because we had a slow start and we never did anything to be honest), he finished me the next day, he then realised he had made a mistake and sent me an apology email we met up and ended up getting back together and also shared our first kiss :). A couple of weeks later his ex-girlfriend told him i was cheating on him with this guy (my ex) he didn't believe her and took my side (she was lying), eventually after alot of her lies we decided to look beyond her childish behaviour and continue being together without her being in the way. He told me that she begged him one night to take her back and said she loved him !, i was glad he told me but glad that he doesnt feel the same way. The girl he use to go out with added me on msn and said she had no feelings for him anymore but i dont believe her because she trys talking to him all the time and constantly trys to make me jelous, according to one of the guy i'm going out with mates says shes not very nice and use to push him around alot. well more to the point hes going on holiday with his ex for a week, well not particualary with her its only because hes going with his mate that she'll also be there, i cant help feeling jelous about it because of what happened in the past, he says he loves me and he trusts me so i should trust him but because he changed his mind so quickley about how he felt about me he might do it again and i'm scared i'll lose him to her. Do i have the right to be jelous? and should i trust him?
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reader, hislilgoobear  +, writes (24 July 2008):
 Your welcome I'd help anyone that needed after people on here helping me it's worth the time..Any ways I hope that things go well for you and this problem doesn't consume you...You just got to have faith that he adores you too much that it wouldn't be worth screwing up what you have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou ! that really helps (:
i feel much more asured about the situation, & feel happy that i aint the only to have worried about it.
Hes a good guy & i should trust him, like you trusted yours (:
anyways yeh before i start writing an essayy,, thankyouu for your time spent on helping me out, it means alot (:
thanks.
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reader, hislilgoobear +, writes (22 July 2008):
I had some of the same problems with my boyfriend. See my parents made me move to georgia from new york with them and left him behind. We stayed together but he always suspected me of cheating on him and while I was gone one of my best friends tried getting him to sleep with her. However he didn't but coming back was hard because everyone told me that he was loyal to me I had to try and move past that and believe my man. I even went as far as asking his mom how long this girl was at their house for and how long they were together alone for alittle part of me still wonders because let's be honest I will truely never know. But you have to have faith in him to. Granted you will never truelly know what could have happened on their trip but if they appear closer than normal whe n he comes back, ask him questions tell him the way you feel about him being so close to his ex that coincedentally still has feelings for him.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (17 July 2008):
 Yes that's true. Friends tend to be biased but they tend to look out for your benefit.
I'm so glad that this helped you. Now the only thing left for you to do is just have a good time while he's away. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyouu for your help it really has helped the situation alot, & he didnt say he would go after her again btw :)
my friends basically said the same thing but sometimes its hard to take there advice & sometimes is better coming from someone who doesnt know you, it probably will be hard whilst hes away but i'm quite close with his mate & i'm sure if something would happen he'd tell me or at least hint about it. He said hes in love with me (as corny as that sounds lol), & everyone makes mistakes, that was his & i should trust him :), yeh i'm babbling now so thankyou very much ! your advice was a great help & means alot that youu took the time to help me out ! :) x
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (17 July 2008):
I just want to clarify something. Did he tell you that he might go after this girl again? (One of the things you put last).
It's ok to be jealous, but you should really trust him (if he has told you he loves you and you're only for him). Of course, the only one you shouldn't trust is her. But trust your boyfriend and tell him you do. Just keep on reminding yourself that he loves you and only you and that he's with YOU and not with her. There's a reason why he left her and why he chose you even after breaking up with you. Remember he said he commited a mistake? He learned from it and will probably will not fall for it again.
If you're still worried if something happened, then ask him to tell you the truth. Also you could subtley aks his friend what happened in the trip (i.e. "So did anything interesting happened?") This will show your true acting skills because you have to make yourself like you're interested on their week-end instead of sounding like you suspect him.
To have a peaceful time while his on the trip, just keep on reminding yourself what I told you. He's with YOU and not with HER. He loves YOU and not HER. He thinks she's immature but he thinks you're his life. He left her for a reason, but he's staying with YOU because you give him a reason to live.
Trust your man. Trust his words. Forgive his mistakes and move on.
Good luck and I hope you have a good time.
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