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writes:So I've never had a girlfriend or have much experience in dating or sex. Anyway, I've started dating this girl for a few weeks now. Whenever I think about her, think about talking to her, when I call her, talk to her or sometimes just being with her I get an erection. What I mean is that when I think about her NON sexually, or just being around her, I still get all turned up.I was thinking this could be kind of weird, and maybe I'm subconsciously having some kind of deviant sex behavior? I'm really concerned!!! Is it normal to get all horny, even when I think about her NON sexually??? Even when we don't have any physical contact (kissing, caressing, etc.) or conversations that lead into thinking erotically??? Of course I would say its normal if she was like acting all sexy, but I'm talking about normal everyday behavior...Please help!!!! I'm worried.. =/
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all your answers, it really had me a bit nervous... and yes I also get nervous and anxious when I'm with her. I guess I'm still inexperienced in those matters. Thank you again for all your comments and suggestions!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all your answers, it really had me a bit nervous... and yes I also get nervous and anxious when I'm with her. I guess I'm still inexperienced in those matters. Thank you again for all your comments and suggestions!!
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reader, Burningleon  +, writes (30 April 2011):
I think it is actually quite normal. I know I personally have had an issue with the same kind of thing. I am younger than you but she is my first real girlfriend as well. I found that when we would hang out and such I would just get an erection and it became really awkward cause I was worried that she would think I only wanted her for sex. I started wearing compression shorts whenever I was with her, especially when we went to the gym or the pool together as gym shorts and swimming trunks do little to hide that. Now that our relationship has progressed and we're able to talk about that kind of stuff I've learned that she doesn't mind. Specifically I was apologizing about getting hard while we were hugging and she told me that it was actually sort of a confidence booster for her and she was glad that she could have that effect on me without having to even try to be sexy.So is it normal? Yes. I would say so. My advice is to just get a few pairs of compression short to wear when you're hanging out and eventually when you get to that stage of your relationship you can ask her what her opinion on it is.
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reader, lovebird1  +, writes (30 April 2011):
I don't think you need to worry - you're not deviant! You're just a normal guy who's turned on by a cute girl and is really really excited about her. I suppose you've got a crush on her and you're nervous around her and that's enough to get you an erection. Personally, I'd feel very flattered if a guy got an erection around me without me even doing something:) I'd take it as a compliment, but I wouldn't think he's a pervert or something.So, relax, maybe masturbate next time before you meet her so you're a little less excited. But don't worry, you're completely fine. Enjoy your sexuality, enjoy thinking about her and getting aroused, there's nothing wrong with it. When I want to masturbate it's enough sometimes to think about someone's face. That's a nonsexual image but it still turns me on if it's the face of someone I fancy.
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reader, Smileypants +, writes (30 April 2011):
 You're not deviant!! You're just reeeealy horny, and she reeealy lights your fire. Don't be so hard on yourself. You are perfectly normal :o)
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