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Anybody meet their spouses as teenagers?

Q.   well this is just me thinking if im honest ... how many people here on this site have been with spouses since they were in their mid teens (14-17) because me and my bf started goin out last year (me 13 and him 14) and after a year and 3 month...

A.   22 June 2011: Well, I did marry my big teenage love....we got divorced 5 yrs in. We're cool now, we have a teenage son, but that's the way it is. You see, what I learned is that who you are at 15 is a whole different person than who you are at 25. There are alwa... (read in full...)

I'm not sure myself how I feel about this yet, as I'm in shock. Should I wait until I've worked out whether I wish to keep the possible baby before speaking to my bf?

Q.   Hey, I really need some advice...I'm 30, been with my bf for 9 months and love him dearly. We don't live together, but he's talked about wanting us to 'settle down', get married and start a family in the next couple of years, but today I took a ...

A.   22 June 2011: Aww, it will all be OK :) I'm going to agree, yes get confirmation from the dr. If you're taking weight loss pills, stop. And for crying out loud, tell your boyfriend!! You need his support and counsel more than ever. You say you've discusse... (read in full...)

Is he gay or just freaky?

Q.   I have a friend that is ashamed to get on here and ask a question. I told her that no one would know her. LOL Anyway she has been dating this guy for about 6 months with no sex involved until last night. They were fooling around first and then ...

A.   11 June 2011: Gay? Maybe, maybe not. It might have been he was really turned on, and she obviously hit a "hot spot" for him lol Not all guys who like anal play are gay. Their prostrate gland is in there, and from what I heard that gives them incredible orgasms.... (read in full...)

She has a double standard when it comes to professional touching

Q.   My girlfriend of 2.5+ years is an aesthetician. Included in her duties are the occasional bacial (men’s back massage/skin treatment) and men’s facial, which includes an oiled up shoulder massage. When we first began dating she was very controlling ...

A.   2 June 2011: It's OK for a aesthetician to touch her clients. It's her job, what she's supposed to do. It's OK for a PT to touch his clients. It's his job, what he's supposed to do. The fact that there is any problems over this suggests some growing up needs to ... (read in full...)

His comment about my weight were rude and uncalled for, what should I say to him?

Q.   I've been dating my bf long distance for almost 15mths now. Since I've met him, I've gained about 10-15lbs. Two nights ago, we were texting and I mentioned that I had started a new workout the day before and my body was achy because it was s...

A.   1 June 2011: Try not to let this become a big issue. I agree that it was a "poking fun" kind of joke, but women who need to lose a few don't like it much!! I bet that's why he didn't even mention it later- probably felt bad. Just casually mention it hurt your ... (read in full...)

My bf is getting too rough in bed. What does it mean and what do I do about it?

Q.   Me and my bf have always been rough in bed. I do anal and gag and stuff and we both like it. But these past few months it has got a little weird. He hurts me. He shoves his member down my throat and it is agonising. When i climax he covers my mouth ...

A.   28 May 2011: You two need to come up with a certain unique word or gesture that means STOP. He either coperates with that, and respects the "code" when it's given, or you drop him like a hot potato and (hopefully) never see him again. Seriously. Because if he ... (read in full...)

Why doesn't he look at me when we have sex?

Q.   Ok here goes. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 months now going onto 3. There is one problem: when we have sex he closes his eyes, turns his head away, and bearly makes a sound besides breathing and a rare grunt or gasp. He's a really nice ...

A.   25 May 2011: My guy does that a lot, and we've been together over a year. I think ot's when he's concentrating on not pulling the trigger to fast lol Don't worry sweety, just enjoy your new relationship :o)... (read in full...)

Why are my colleagues resentful of me?

Q.   Im finding recently that my work colleagues are becoming resentful of me. The 1st thing that happened was I got engaged last year and my boyfriend and I designed my engagement ring and had it made. I absolutly love it so when I showed it off ...

A.   25 May 2011: Because you work with a bunch of jealous old hens!! Just ignore it, and be nice otherwise. In the big picture of your life...5o you REALLY give a hot shit what these women think?? She'd be mad at her hubby for sending flowers...??...um yeahhhh ... (read in full...)

I don't find my wife attractive anymore

Q.   Me and my wife have been living together for nine years and married for the last six we have two children the youngest is four years old throughout our relationship her weight and appearance has fluctuated. in the last few years I have found her ...

A.   25 May 2011: Aww I know exactly how she feels. I've only recently lost a significant amount of weight. I agree with other posters...check into whether or not depression is a factor. It was for me, I was in a downhill sliding relationship and everything seem... (read in full...)

What do I do about the abusive part of my relationship?

Q.   My boyfriend hits me and gets in my face all of them time and he will not let me do anything at all, what do i do about the abuse part of my relationship?...

A.   25 May 2011: Tell your parents!! Let them help you through this. Or any trusted adult. You are a kid, you aren't supposed to be dealing with this alone.PLEASE tell someone right now!!... (read in full...)

Is it ok to have sex with my professor?

Q.   hi, so my problem is that I'm in a relationship with my professor at college I'm only 20 and he is 42...we meet up 3 times a week in this apartment .However, we didn't have sex until now although that we have been together for 4 months because ...

A.   24 May 2011: Well, he may find himself out of a job... Is he married?? If so then yes, its wrong. If he's not married, it's still wrong in the sense that it's improper for a teacher/student to have relations. Other people could easily feel you get preferen... (read in full...)

Ran into my cheating ex, what does all of this mean?!

Q.   Wow, what a long road it has been since I first found this website and posted my own question. I had my heart broken by the girl I really thought the world of. She had cheated on me.br brI have come to terms with what happened, and am OKAY now!...

A.   24 May 2011: Don't apologize!! For all she knows, this is the hot ticket you've hooked up with since she cheated on you. I say if it makes her feel like crap, good!! Maybe she'll think twice before doing that again. If I was you, I'd avoid "cheating ex". As far ... (read in full...)

20 years older than me, is he just being friendly?

Q.   I know a man who is much older than me, and he winks at me every time he sees me, and he always says i am special, and he said that if he was 20 years younger, he would go after me. He also knew about this guy who treated me badly once, and he said ...

A.   23 May 2011: I think he's "throwing it out there" to see what you would think about it. If you like him as possibly more than a friend, and you're both single...why not?? You may enjoy being with a guy older and more mature than your age group. Age gap ... (read in full...)

He stands up when his 10 year old sister enters the room, is this too much?

Q.   What would you think of a guy (27) who is handsome, has a good job and basically has everything going right for him who actually physically stands up as a gesture of respect for his 10 years younger sister (17) when she enters the room and makes her ...

A.   23 May 2011: I think if a man treats his mother/sisters well, you have a wonderful man who's ready to be a life partner to a woman. Sounds like a helluva guy!! Yes, it's a bit unusual for him to do that for a baby sister...but if he's he father figure, they ... (read in full...)

I feel I had an unnecessary abortion, how do I stop crying over this??

Q.   Im an emotional wreck after having a termination 3 months ago. My boyfriend and i planned the pregnancy and he promised me he would step upto the mark, move into my place and that we would get married as soon as i got pregnant. I had no reason to...

A.   23 May 2011: What an immature asshole!! No hunny, you need to kick this dude to the curb. He has put you through hell, all because of his own immaturity. If he really wanyed that baby, he would've stopped you when you were at that clinic. Why on earth would he ... (read in full...)

Just found out I am 4 months pregnant--and I had no symptoms! Is this unusual??

Q.   So, simple question to all the couples/moms out there. My boyfriend and I just found out I am near four months along, I had NO idea, just 2 random positive pg tests! So my question to you all, has this ever happened? An undetected pregnancy, or a ...

A.   21 May 2011: Yeah, it happened to me :o) I was four months along when I confirmed it. For me, I had stopped taking the pill and had to wait for my next period so I could start birth control shots after my next cycle. Well it seemed like it was taking forever ... (read in full...)

She cheated, I forgave her, but I still hurt inside. Will this ever go away?

Q.   My girlfriend and i have been together for two years. We've been through a lot together and i love her very much. Our relationship is far from perfect, but we work very hard on our flaws together. One thing, though, that's really difficult for me, ...

A.   21 May 2011: I'm sorry for what you're going through. My ex-husband cheated on me, but it was the final act of the marriage- we got a divorce soon after. My point being, I was never in the position of being cheated on, then staying with the person and tryi... (read in full...)

Husband has bars on credit card statement but says credit card company made a mistake

Q.   recently my husband's credit care statement had three different charges for well known bars in the city. not restaurants, but just bars. And not cheap either. each was a week night. We never go out during the week. We both work in different parts of ...

A.   20 May 2011: Call the bars in question and say that you think there may have been a false charge at their place. Ask to see the slip that was signed. A lot of places keep the signed slips in their daily work in case someone tries to dispute the charge and want a ... (read in full...)

What can I do to stop my feelings for my married lover?

Q.   This has troubled since I got married two years ago. I used to have a married lady as sex partner where I lived in my school day. We loved each other before we both married. Now we still make love when I travel to the city where she lives with her ...

A.   20 May 2011: Um, stop going to her house. The only way is to basically don't have any contact with her anymore. Remember your wife and the vows you made when its tempting to contact this woman. Personally I hope your wife finds out and leaves your ass. Why did ... (read in full...)

How do I tell my family and friends about my BF without shocking them too much??

Q.   I recently got together with a guy who I really care for and like. He's like THE guy I've always wanted my bf to be like and the feeling's mutual for him as well. I enjoy the chemistry we share and I've never been more thankful to have met a guy ...

A.   19 May 2011: Well, you're a grown up now right? You're with who you're with and if others don't like it they can shove it haha I would say just hang out with him, like you're gonna anyways. Don't make any big announcements about BF/GF...he's just there with you... (read in full...)

Female orgasm from performing fellatio?

Q.   Do some women experience orgasms while (or from) performing fellatio ? She stops (hesitates) several times while performing fellatio and seems to need to get her breath.... almost like choking but different. She twitches and gets her breath then con...

A.   19 May 2011: Hahahahahahahaha!!! No. Sounds more like she's trying to fight her gag reflex. For some women that's extra hard to get past. Just enjoy the knobber and don't worry about it ;o)... (read in full...)

Best friend going off into the military but wants me to have his baby. He already has a girlfriend!

Q.   I am a senior in high and my best friend is going off to the military. He wants a baby... by me... However, he has a girlfriend. I don't know the girl and she doesn't know me. I do love this guy ever since I was a freshman though. I am also a virgin ...

A.   18 May 2011: No!! Don't do it!! Be young, go to school, have fun. There's plenty of time to meet The One and have *his* baby after he puts a ring on your finger. Have your own career and your own life first! Don't just be this guys baby momma. What an odd thing ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend cant even be bothered to talk things through and always wants to leave at the first sign of trouble!

Q.   whenever my girlfriend and myself have a disagreement her first answer is always well maybe we should just end it? or well shall i move out then? I almost feel like she wants me to say yes. I have been there for her through everything. Look...

A.   17 May 2011: OK, I kinda do this with my BF. He's called me on it too! I don't threaten to end the relationship, but I just wanna grab my shit and go home. (We don't live together, but I'm at his house A LOT). This is why: (for me) 1. I've been through roc... (read in full...)

Jealous Husband

Q.   My husband (I’ll call him Karl) and I married last year. I’m in love – my husband is the best person I’ve ever met and will ever meet. We’re expecting our first child in a couple of weeks and are very excited (and nervous!). My problem is this:...

A.   17 May 2011: Clinical jealousy?? Hmmm. Google that. See if it's a real diagnosis- it's not, by the way. Sounds more like momma trying to downplay her sons tantrums to you. He needs to agree to go see a neutral counselor. This is just excessively needy, and unhe... (read in full...)

He's cheated on me, but I'm afraid to be alone

Q.   Dear all I have asked for advice before and hope you will help me again. been married 24 yrs with him for 32yrs 3 yrs ago i found out he was cheating on me with a co worker 20 yrs younger than him she was also married the affair had been goin...

A.   17 May 2011: Wow, this post made me sad. I'm so sorry you've been through all this :( I'm going to be perfectly honest and say that you, me and everyone who reads your post would agree you need to get away from this man. If you truly don't have ANYONE to take... (read in full...)

Is it wrong of me changing my mind about marrying my girlfriend?

Q.   I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years, in this time she's had severe drug problems and has cheated on me three times, I love her. but now she wants a commitment and wants us to get married, I said Yes initially after we got back together but I ...

A.   4 May 2011: No, it sounds like you are thinking rather clearly. I'm not saying you two could *never* have a successful marriage, but this one would have more dismal odds than most. At the very least, you two should enter couples counseling. If your friends ... (read in full...)

Fiance won't get rid of pictures of his ex!

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half, he recently proposed and I said yes. Only problem is he won't get rid of pictures of him and his ex girlfriend. They had many issues, he said they would break up and get back together, ...

A.   4 May 2011: Well, another no hun. Sorry! This is the thing: he's with YOU now!! I agree with the other posters that if the pix are out on display, or naked pictures then I could see the problem. He had a life before he met you. So did you! I bet you still ha... (read in full...)

Deviant sexual behavior?

Q.   So I've never had a girlfriend or have much experience in dating or sex. Anyway, I've started dating this girl for a few weeks now. Whenever I think about her, think about talking to her, when I call her, talk to her or sometimes just b...

A.   30 April 2011: You're not deviant!! You're just reeeealy horny, and she reeealy lights your fire. Don't be so hard on yourself. You are perfectly normal :o)... (read in full...)

I need a reliable bug repellent!

Q.   i have this big bug problem these senipeds and spiders and ants and pertty much everything i git this new bug spray called raid max bug barrier and so i guess its been working and i just sprayed it all over my room and out side... i would really ...

A.   30 April 2011: Well, your parents need to get an exterminator in your house. If that's not going to happen soon, maybe use one of the raid bug bomb things? Where you set it off in your room and leave for a few hours. Just please be careful spraying bug spray ... (read in full...)

G/f dumps me every year on my birthday!

Q.   im 26 tomorrow and have never felt so alone and unloved im an extreamly caring person and have a big hart i would say im attractive stocky in build blue eyyes dark hair around 6ft. My ex finished me 2days ago for the 3rd time 3 years on the tro...

A.   29 April 2011: What dirtball said X 3! Man, some people are just bad news, and wreak havoc on your life, and she is one of them. Good luck, stay strong. It hurts now, but I promise it won't forever.I speak as someone who has been through that kind of pain, ... (read in full...)

I am always hard around my fiance and it's starting to turn her off

Q.   Is it normal for me to just be constantly hard around my fiance. we been dating for 4 years...and we lost our virginity to each other. She is very very beautiful and when i was younger, im 19 now i dont remember being so hard around her, ever since ...

A.   28 April 2011: No, you're a young man who's naturally horny, plus in love, and she's beautiful. You two should be humping a lot!! Lol Um, what kind of relationship do you two have otherwise?? Seems like, for a woman this young, there might be an emotional disc... (read in full...)

How do I change a habit that has become ingrained? my daughter in law has complained about it.

Q.   My son has asked me to stop repeating myself when I speak to his wife. He says she doesn't want to speak to me any more because I repeat myself so often. My son says he is used to me doing this and thinks nothing of it, he says I have so many good ...

A.   27 April 2011: Wow, she sounds like a gem. I think it's rude it's even brought up. Some people have tics, some people have a lisp, some people have a stutter, and so on. They also (hopefully) have FAMILY that loves them , and takes it as is- or maybe even an ... (read in full...)

I'm so desperate that I scare men away...how do I stop being like this?

Q.   I hate my life. Im single, Im 27 and a mum of a 1 year old. I have a good job, a good family and good friends. However, I want to find the right guy and settle down. Im so desperate now that I get obsessed with any guy that shows me attention and ...

A.   26 April 2011: You have to make a conscious decision to stop this behavior. Don't drink for a while!! When you are depressed anyways (no offense but it sounds like you are) alcohol just intensifies all that stuff and makes you carry on about it. I was a little ... (read in full...)

How do you french kiss?

Q.   This may sound stupid but I really need help on this. My BF and I have dated 2 other times before. He has tried to fench kiss me both times and I have pulled away every time. Now we are dating again and he has tried it again. I told him not yet but ...

A.   26 April 2011: I agree with the others...basically follow his lead. Kind of copy what he's doing back to him. Don't force your tounge in his mouth like a tounge depressor when he gets his throat checked at the doctors!! Haha. Soft, slightly open lips, soft tounge, ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend has no feelings toward his ex at all, is this normal?

Q.   My partner says he is over his ex. He has no photos. no mementos, does not speak to her, does not email her, and he has often said (on me asking) that he never thinks about her. Also, when she does come up (I bring her up btw) he is usually negative ...

A.   26 April 2011: Yes it's possible....means he already grieved the relationship and has moved on. That's good!! Quit bringing her up, girl!! Lol... (read in full...)

Did he just say those things because we were having sex?

Q.   my boyfriend and i have been together for 6 months. We are both grown adults. We have discussed love and we both feel that we love eachother, but neither of us ever say "i love you" to eachother (because we are both afraid of heartbreak) last night ...

A.   26 April 2011: I think it sounds like he was busting down a wall between you two, with this whole "don't say I love you" thing. Sounds pretty clear to me that he loves you!! And it was during sex because that's an intense emotional bonding type moment. He didn't ... (read in full...)

I check on partner's ex and he broke up with her 10 years ago!

Q.   I am obsessed with my partners ex. I just constantly check her facebook page and look at pictures of her and her husband. My partner and her broke up almost 10 years ago! I think I am going mad, can someone please give me some tips to stop!...

A.   26 April 2011: Haha, facebook does this sometimes....block her. Then you can't "see" her at all. Just don't go in and unblock her!! Maybe if it's not so easy for you to pull her page up, you can better distract yourself with other stuff. ... (read in full...)

My bf refuses to change his fb status, what can I do

Q.   My boyfriend of 5 months won't change his FB status and I am angry!! Right now it doesn't say he is single, he has it blank on that line. I sent him a request to change his status on FB from nothing to "in a relationship" and link it to my page. H...

A.   24 April 2011: I wouldn't like that myself. I want to know my man is proud of me being his woman. My bf and I have each other linked on our pages. That being said, if that was the only issue, I'd say chill out. But you admit he's about to leave for a while, and ... (read in full...)

Could he like me as more than a friend?

Q.   I've recently met this guy who I'm starting to fall for I can't stop thinking about him .. Hes even giving me butterflys and I get really nervous when I see him .. I haven't felt like this before , not even with my exs, having him around gives me ...

A.   24 April 2011: Definitely sounds like he's flirting with you....I think he likes you back!! "There's your bf" stuff like that...he's thinking of you in that way. I say go for it!! I don't think this is a young man "just being nice". :o)... (read in full...)

Should I flirt with my Ex-girlfriend's best friend?

Q.   I broke with my Girlfriend dumped me few months back. My girlfriend left me saying that I didn't have secured future by doing small job. I think I have been hard done by her for leaving me for such a small reason. Now I want taking revenge on her ...

A.   24 April 2011: No, its not ethical..it could ruin their friendship, not to mention it's not very fair to the friend to be used in that way for you to get your petty revenge. Grow up, and just pick a sweeter girl next time. You moving on and being happier without ... (read in full...)

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