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writes:For over two years i have been dating the same guy. He is great, funny, nice, loving... But lately, especially over the last few months i have been questioning our relationship. Our families have different religions and he will never agree with mine. It's a topic we avoid but i know we must face. Deep down i know i am not ready for this kind of a relationship, i am not ready to commit to a serious relationship that is no doubt leading to marriage. But i can't bring myself to talk to him about my true feelings. I care about him alot and i can't picture myself without him i know i need to move on and date other people again. He just is not quite the man i am looking for, i thought he was. How do i know when it's time to let go... and not regret it? Could breaking up with him be a huge mistake?
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (25 January 2008):
 HiOh blimey, what a dilema.Hmmm well, i guess if he doesnt tick all the right boxes then you would be better off moving on. Easier said than done though isnt it! I suppose you could say no one would ever fit our ideal, afterall there is no such thing as perfect. Compromises almost always have to be made. But it depends what parts those are and how important they are.I can imagine religion and families are quite important issues really.I expect most of us have been in relationships that we are not completely comfortable in, split with them, only to miss them like mad and wonder if we have done the right thing. If only life were a bit more simple ey!I guess ive been no help at all, but i'm not too sure if anyone could be. Its such a personal issue that only you are going to be able to sort.Maybe writing down all the good points of the relationship and all the bad. Weighing it all up.If you really do feel you want to date others, you wont lose that feeling until you actually do.All i can say is, the grass is rarely greener. I was with my kids dad 9 years, he was only my second r.ship and for 8 of those years we were soul mates, i couldnt imagine being without him. but i felt at 29 (he was 10 yrs older) i wanted to live a little. That was 7 years ago now and i wouldnt even say i regret splitting but ive yet to meet someone so suited to me to be honest! Not saying i'm not happy single, i am, and all has worked out well for all of us, he is living with someone and the kids like her. but i guess if i had my time again, i would know the grass isnt greener and maybe be content with what i had.All the best.C xxxxx
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reader, buddys  +, writes (25 January 2008):
 It sounds like you already know, but are just afraid to make the move. I have this problem right now, where my guy says the same thing... I'm just not 'the one.' and I love him like crazy. People keep telling me that if he really loves me, he will want to come back. So if you break up and realize you made a mistake, maybe you'll get the chance to go back. But there's also a risk that you won't be able to. That's the risk you'll have to take to find the answer to your question. good luck.
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