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*oBabyYes21
writes:my boyfriend and i havent been dating for very long (one week) and hes already told me he loves me. my problem with that is..i dont feel the same way. i care about him and love hanging out with him and our friend who for now im going to name c. also lately since a(my bf) and i have been together c has been being mean to a and acting like he doesnt like a. they used to be best friends and ever since a and i started dating its been weird. c never told me he liked me but ive gotten hints about it. his little brother told me c liked me, and c stares at me alot. when i asked him if he thought one of a's friends would go out with me he said no and started talking bad about him too. anyway now im not sure what to do. a says he loves me i dont think i feel the same way(ex. i think about other guys from time to time and rarely flirt anymore. lately ive been thinking about guys i used to like, who i had flings with and my ex's) and c and a used to be bff, but now (unfortunetely because of me possibly,) they hate each other...or at least they act more hostile around each other when im around..please help i care about them both and idk what to do about what im thinking and what my bfs thinking about us.
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reader, NoBabyYes21 +, writes (28 October 2010):
NoBabyYes21 is verified as being by the original poster of the question i wasnt planning on having sex for awhile...
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reader, lil_liza321  +, writes (27 October 2010):
dont. just dont date him ifhe already haa a gf. tell him he can only date one girl. if he still likes you enough he will dump the other girl. if not, well, at least you wont feel guilty anymore! good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): You've been dating just a week and he's already your BF????
Umm PUMP THE BRAKES!! He's probably infatuated and lusting over you and only time will reveal the sincerity of his words. The one way to tell if his feels stem from real love or lust is to WITHHOLD GIVING IN TO SEX for 3-6 months or longer. Some men think they fall in love at first sight but fail to realize that they are only enamoured by the supeficial quality of the person and not the depth of her soul. He just doesn't know enough about you to TRULY LOVE you. He hasn't realized your flaws, he doesn;t know your person enough to call what he feels love. After 3 months, the reality of the relationship comes to light, and then the fairy princess goddess he fell for begins to look like this annoying person still a goddess but who occassionally gets on his nerves. He realizes you are human afterall And you notice his issues as well. But its real love that makes one look past this and still love the person flaws and all.
You are right to doubt him, but it doesn't mean things will not mature to real love. Give it time. Listen to his actions NOt his words. With time your feelings will mature and his will become more real.
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