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writes:hi im 21 male. i recently had moved to another city for 3 months for exam coaching purpose. the thing is i was in a casual relationship with a neighbour women. she is 25. it was just sex oriented. then i moved back to my hometown, now I am in a serious relationship with a girl of my age. should i tell her about my casual relationship ??
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (11 April 2013):
In that case.... Do you feel guilty? Do you feel like keeping this a secret is very difficult for you?
In that case I'd tell her.
Is there any religious reason why you're supposed to be a virgin? Or is it just "right and wrong"?
If there is no religious reason then I don't think it's worth telling her. In my opinion it doesn't change who you are. It won't make you any less capable of being a good husband if that is the path you're headed for.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionappreciate your help.i m supposed to be a virgin.it is a big deal in my country !!!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 April 2013):
 has she asked?
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reader, CMMP +, writes (10 April 2013):
That's personal information, why would you think it's something that needs to be "confessed"? Are you supposed to be a virgin or something?
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reader, YouWish +, writes (10 April 2013):
 The big thing was whether or not you were having the casual fling at the same time you and your current girlfriend were together. If this casual fling was your history, and you hadn't met your current girlfriend yet, it's no big deal! Your past is your past. If you feel like telling her, that's your privilege. Otherwise, you're under no obligation to spill the history of every sexual exploit as long as you weren't cheating on her, and like the previous aunt has said, your obligation is to be disease-free.
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reader, MsSadie +, writes (10 April 2013):
 Do you normally tell girlfriends about your past relationships? Or is this your first girlfriend? Is there perhaps a concern about STDs? Or did you mean to say that you cheated on your girlfriend with the fling?As the question is written, it doesn't sound like a big deal to me. Yes, let your new girlfriend know about the fling. It doesn't even need to be a serious, sit-down conversation or anything because these subjects usually come up on their own. You don't need to go into too much detail, simply mention the fling as you would any other past relationship.However, if there is any concern about the possibility of an STD, then it is your duty as a responsible adult to immediately let your girlfriend know about the fling so that you can BOTH get tested.If you cheated, then it is your duty as a responsible boyfriend to let your girlfriend know about the fling so that you can BOTH get tested, and so that your girlfriend can decide if she wants to continue the relationship with you.
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