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male
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30-35,
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writes:Me and my girlfriend had so many problem and arguments in the past. I'm 19 and She's about to be 20, we went out for 3 years. All the fighting caused our love to be replaced by resentment, and don't believe we didn't try because we did a lot. It was our first, serious relationship, we lost it together. Lately, she's been asking to JUST be single, she wants to find out who she is, she wants to be independent.After our break up we met up once more because I had something to get off my chest. I wanted to know if we broke up because of a guy she used to like, but I guess I was wrong and to prove she showed proof (just trust me, I believe her). I don't know when she fell out of love, but we talked and she told it hurt her a lot leaving me but felt like a weight from her lifted. It was the oddest break up meeting ever, I came to her house angry and suspicious about her and it ended up with us laughing and joking around, we had good time, she told me not to get confused and not to get the wrong signals but she just wants to be friends.She believes were incompatible because we always argued about our friend circle and social life, but in honest reality, I'm just like her, I just showed incompatibility because of my jealousy towards her having more friends than me (I grew up and realized how childish I was).What I'm asking is that now were trying to be single and find who we really are (Independency). With the information I gave on how our break up ended is there a chance for us in the future that we will fall in love again? Do i move on completely or leave a piece of us with me because I believe there is hope? does anyone have a similar story as mine, any advice. Thank You
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (11 January 2011):
You can never predict how the future will pan out but I wouldn't pin your hopes on getting back together.
If you are meant to be, you are meant to be and things will happen as and when. It's harder to let go because she was your first serious relationship and sexual partner. You never forget your first.
But she wants to explore her life and other people and you should do the same (move on) and I have no doubt you will find someone else in due course.
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