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female
age
36-40,
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writes:Ok here is guy I met on net and we have been friends for a year . We were very good friends and he shared everything about his life with me. He said he loves me more than anything and wants me as his life partner. As it is a online relation and we live far away so I was taking my time in making any decision or commitment.Some days back I found out through a friend that he is a flirt when I asked her to prove it she gave me the Copy of chat they had. I was so shocked to see it , he talked the same way he talks to me.. Even he asked her if she loves him in the end.. it came out so easily . How can u love some one after talking once ? I broke up with him , not exactly broke up but told him the story n said I don't trust u anymore so what's fun of keeping anything btw us.But He Still waits for me to be online . I feel bad , becoz I'm not quite sure what I did is right or wrong? Why I can't just get him out off my head ?I can't hate him ? He never tried to give any reason or I didn't listen to him , he just said do u believe her ? Do i need to talk to him again ? or just let it go ?his birthday is coming next week , will it be rude not wish him because before this happened we shared an awesome relation . I don't know it was real from his side but I was really involved and its hurting now ?So what Do I DO ? Any advice is appreciated , thank u all.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (18 May 2010):
 You see, that's the problem with 90% of on line relationships : they are not relationships at all. They are fantasies, or a way to kill time, or to feel good about themselves by getting attention and admiration. It's not that people are mean and they want to deceive you on purpose, at least not always- it's just that they get carried away with words because hey after all it's just words, that do not need to be backed up by the consintency and seriousness of actions like in real life relationships. - and the other person lives hundreds or thousands of miles away anyway- it's like a game, and you took it too seriously.
Not that all on line relationships are like that-but yours was, and if you want more, you will definitely not have it from this boy.I would cut my losses and move on.
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