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writes:I am torturing myself over here. My ex of 2 years who I was crazy about, and I had a child together. Throughout the relationship he was abusive, and cheated, and I kept forgiving, and giving chances. After 2 years of the off and on and constant lies and My finding text messages and finding out I was cheated on, I decided It was time to leave. I left, and got my own home. He chased me for a while, and I was fine. I was strong and i didnt give in. But now I found out he is seeing the girl he cheated on me with so many times. And now that I have realized he isnt chasing me anymore, and that he is with her, I have been having horrible dreams. I see them in my dreams. They are kissing, having sex, and I wake up in tears and cant go back to sleep. It torment's me. I think about it during the day, I cry when i hear certain songs, but I cant stop it even though I know i did nothing wrong to deserve to feel this way. I am questioning my worth, and why I am going through this when I know the better choice was to leave. WHY CAN'T I STOP THIS?? I CANT TAKE LIVING LIKE THIS EVERY DAY!!! HELP!!! I have so many unanswered questions that I know will never be answered, I know it sounds messed up, but i always wanted to know where they were, how special it was, why...why he did that If he loved me, and our son, why... why.... I cant deal with this. I am going out of my mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2013): "why can't I stop this? I can't take living like this every day. Help!Sorry, but you need to get your ego in check.Lying, cheating, abusive scumbag has suddenly turned into Prince Charming for the simple reason that he's found some other needy, insecure, clingy chick whom he can more easily victimize and now you can't stand the thought the he picked someone else over you because you're better than anyone else is and you don't want him or her to win over you. In your eyes, the only thing worse than him lying to, cheating on and abusing you is him ignoring you. I suggest you seek counseling as otherwise you are ripe to fall under the spell of another charming, manipulative con artist and you may very well soon find yourself trapped in yet another disastrous relationship.Your son deserves better than an emotional wreck of a mother pining over her scumbag baby daddy. Smarten up and be strong, if not for your sake then for his. Otherwise he'll grow up assuming from your behavior that being a lowlife abuser like his sperm donor is normal and expected behavior.
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (22 May 2013):
 Hi, you need to remember you deserve better and not be treated like yesterdays garbage. What are you crying for the heartache, cheating betrayal, is that what you miss.
Keep friends around you and start seeing other guys, dont get hung up on teh past, he is not worth it, you deserve better and you are better off without him. Do you really think if u reconciled with him, anything will change. The answer is no and the pain you feel now will lesson, but if you had continued teh relationship the pain would have just gotten worst.
Try and keep busy, spoil yourself and start living outstide this man.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (22 May 2013):
 OP get a hold on yourself. This man is a lying, cheating scumbag and neither you nor your son need his presence in your life. He was abusive throughout your relationship and he kept cheating on you and you kept forgiving him in the hope that he would stay with you. That was your biggest mistake. Cheating should be absolutely non negotiable and a deal breaker in anyone's books and you should have kicked him out the very first time that he cheated on you. And more so, in his case its clear, once a cheater, always a cheater. He has made it clear that he wont change.
Yes OP, you did nothing wrong and you don't deserve this but it was an error in judgment to be with a guy like this. You should be happy that he's out of your life now and you are spared the horror of the constant drama and disgusting lies and abuse. Your son does not need an influence like this in his life. If you had stayed on despite knowing what he was up to, you would have insulted yourself. No one deserves this treatment. Hold your head high and stop crying over a man who doesn't ever deserve your tears.
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