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writes:Hi I need your help, I'm a young female of 20, and for the past 4 or 5 years I have had an issue with my breasts. To be honest I can’t stand them -- they are too small and I don’t feel womanly! It’s been getting to me even more in the past couple of years. Especially when I see a specific type of person on the TV or in the paper! I'm not jealous of the way other girls look but it makes me feel so ugly and like a boy and hurt when I see all these girls on TV flaunting these huge fake boobs, sometime I can’t watch and have to leave the room. I don’t know how to stop this! I really wish I knew how to control this! I know I need advice , please it is beginning to ruin my life and I don’t know what to do. I know nothing’s going to change them but why do I feel so horrible and disgusted about my body!! I even got in to a habit of ripping up page 3 every time I saw it ! I don’t want to be like those girls I see on TV, just want to be able to feel comfortable in my own skin!! Can anyone who has ever felt like this or has a view on this please help as it’s taking over, thank you xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): I know how you feel. I have the same problem, I am a 32B and hate it. I am a size zero and feel like I am cursed to look like a 12yr old even though I am 22. I find girls that have my body type no matter how pretty are mannish. I never have had problems attracting guys and get told how pretty I am all the time but I still feel ugly because I find people with my body type unattractive. I hate being in a swim suite and hate for anyone to see me with out a shirt. When I hear people say at least you can wear cuter tops and bras I always wonder what they are talking about because it is hard to find clothes that fit me and that look decent. That being said I do have more guys coming up to me when I go out with my friends who have lager breast and all of my guy friends call me legs because I have very toned legs and get complaints on them all the timeI know everyone says that breast size should not matter but to me it does.I use to not care but I am the only female in my family who is not in a D so I get made fun of. I also get it from my friends who have bigger breast. I am a runner and always would use that to defend my self and would say at least my breast won't ever sag, but it got to the point where it was just getting so old. I just want to look like a woman. I even over heard my boyfriend talking to his friends and one of the( who I just met) made a compliment about how pretty I am and how I had a great body and my boyfriend's response was I know she is the full package except no boobs( I waited till after his friends left to let him know that I over heard). I know it is what's on the inside that counts but I wish had given me a little bit of curves.I know this is not giving you any advive but I just wanted you to know that you are not the only one who feels this way and I wish you the best. Hopefully one day both you and I and everyone else with these feelings will find peace with their bodies.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (15 June 2009):
 If you do go for augmentation you may just miss out on one of the most profound moments in womanhood. Breastfeeding you newborn is such a huge rush and those moments last a lifetime, trust me. Breast sizes change over a lifetime, it's best to start off one the smaller side. Pregnancy and age truly can change a woman's figure, sometimes for the better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2009): I'm a b-c cup but I have something called a chicken chest, which seperates them. And i often feel kinda sad about them and always urge them to grow. but at the end of the day I honestly don't think (along with alot of other girls) that penis size matters. So why should boob size matter? I bet you look beautiful just the way you are, and like you said. You don't want to look like all them other girls. I have a friend whoose an E cup and she can't stand it. She has a constand bad back, can never find clothes that fit or bras that do properly, the amount of sexual harassment she gets is unbalevable. Most guys think she's a slut just cause she has big boobs. And it genuinly upsets her. And no offence to her but they started saging very quickly. and I'd much rather have smaller boobs compared to big ones around my ankles :)
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reader, daletom +, writes (10 June 2009):
I wish I had some really good advice to give you. Unfortunately, you have been brainwashed by our culture and it's REALLY messing up your mind.
For almost 35 years now I have been married to a lovely lady who has (in U.S. sizes - your clothes may go by a different system) a 34-A breast size. I knew what was - or wasn't - there before I even proposed to her. When we met, she had somewhat similar feelings to you - though not as intense or severe. Now we can joke about "skinny broads with no boobs" (I love them!), or getting a tee-shirt printed up with "In Case of Rape: This Side UP" on the front. OK, those jokes are in poor taste, but it shows you that people CAN learn to accept the situation.
Carefully read the reply from "anonymous female", the next-to-bottom post in this thread. Everything (all 8 points!) she says is true - I know from experience. My favorite part is the one about going braless most of the time. Makes it easier to slip a hand under her shirt for a gentle, appreciative, and respectful fondle.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2009): Different guys have different preferences. For example: I like skinny women and those that I find most attractive almost never have more than a B-cup. I've had curvy females whom some of my friends would have chewed off their own arms to get with come onto me and shot them down. Different strokes for different folks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2009): I have the same problem. I feel embarrased buying bras because they are so small! Its especally worse since all the females in my family have huge tits! I used to be very self concious about it but Ive just learned to accept thats how I am (and I would look stupid with big boobs anyway coz Im skinny)
My friend has big boobs and she is jelous of me coz I can wear most clothes.
Focus on other parts of your body that you feel good about. Dont let it get you down, we all want what we cant have!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2009): I am a guy.
I love your breasts and I have no idea who you are or what you or your breasts look like.
No matter what guys say, there is no such thing as a below average breast.
Now, as for you, if you can only be happy with larger breasts then you are only a few thousand dollars away from being happy. Lots of girls have told me that they want enlargement so clothes will fit, etc so you are not alone. The flip side exists too. You might not believe this, but there are more breast reduction surgeries in the U.S. each year than breast enlargement surgeries. They feel something like you do, just the opposite.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2009): 1) Smaller breasts are usually perkier and don't sag as early as bigger ones, if they sag at all
2) Smaller breasts can make a woman look younger, taller and leaner (if she has a good posture!)
3) You can wear way more things with smaller breasts than bigger. Or go braless. Or wear fancy shirts and dresses without too much fuss. You never stretch the pattern on a shirt.
4) You can still breatsfeed
5) You can jog without pain and generally be more active
6) You can sleep on your stomach
7) There are some men who PREFER smaller breasts, or even have a fetish for them
8) You don't have to worry about being stereotyped as a sex siren or maternal type when you don't want to. In other words people will take you more seriously. Not right, but sometimes true...
I'm a very small B cup and every man I've ever been with has loved my breasts to bits. And I love them too. It took me a while to un-brainwash myself about needing to have big breasts. I hope you can love yourself too, because probably you are a beautiful girl just as you are :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2009): Oh my God, I feel just like you! =(
I still don't know how to get over it, with all the big breast propaganda everywhere, but well... I just try to appreciate other parts of my body (face, hair, butt) and ignore the breasts... I also try to think that I'm an awesome person... I recently re-read "The Little Prince" and have been repeating "The essential is invisible to the eye" over and over (corny, I know!)... I also try to identify with famous, glamorous gals with small breasts (especially rock chicks, since I'm in a band myself)....
So far I still hate seeing fake tits everywhere, but those things help a bit when I'm at my lowest...
(I feel so pathetic admitting that I get "low" about something like breasts, but hey, they have a huge impact on women's self esteem!)
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