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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been trying to have sex, but there have been a few problems. Twice he was unable to maintain an erection, and the other two times he came the instant he entered me. We were both virgins before these attempts. I have tried to relax him, coax him, etc, and he says that he really wants to do it. How can we make this work?
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (3 March 2009):
It sounds like he is way to nervous if he is going soft before even touching you. Try to just do foreplay and thats it for a little while it will make him relax and not get scared that he has to preform which is what makes him unable to perform. After a little while of only doing that he will get used to the touching and especially if he can please you orally or with his figures the stress will pass and he will be able to do the dead. It is all because of him feeling scared. Also the problem with the quick cum, masturbating can help with. GOOD LUCK!
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (3 March 2009):
 Hmmm, he might just have to get used to having sex. From what you said, you have only had sex 4 times. He is probably just really excited and nervous.
If the problem persists without any improvement in his performance duration, then he should go see his family doctor. He could have something going on down there, or something psychological going on that he isn't fully aware of (or isn't making you aware of).
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the input, but that technique will not work because he either goes soft right before entering me and cannot be aroused again (therefore cannot enter me because he is soft), or cums the instant he enters me.
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female
reader, jessica04 +, writes (3 March 2009):
One technique is to get him on the verge of cumming, and then stop, have him pull out and gently squeeze the head of his penis with his fingers. When the urge passes, he can enter you again. Repeat as necessary.
I have not tried this, only heard of it.
But really, it's kind of a conditioning thing where whenever he feels that he is about to cum, he stops and calms down.
It might take a few tries, but hey, who cares? ;-)
Be safe, wear a condom, be on the pill, etc etc...
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009): Best bet, bring him to orgasm during foreplay. Then work on getting him erect again. Stop trying so hard. It could be the pressure of his trying to perform that is causing him to lose his erection. Take your time and enjoy all you are diong.
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